[siljie]

UGHH! This is getting on my last nerves! My older sister is always coming into my room and taking my things when I'm gone. Does she seriously think I don't notice?! And they're actually really important things she takes from my room, just because she thinks they're cool. I never take things from her! I stress this issue with her all the time. I've tried it in calm collected ways but sometimes I just lose it and yell at her to stay the hell out of the room! But all she does is call me a ****** and a wh*re and tell me how pathetic I am. I tell my parents too and they don't do a thing. I have a sign on my door too. Anyone else dealt with this before? How do I get her to just listen to me and not take my things anymore?! She seriously doesn't listen to anything she doesn't want to hear, no matter how truthful or calm it is. It sounds trivial, and it is. It's just really pissing me off! Any advice?

[online user]

Oh, my gosh! This sounds terrible. I don't know what to suggest. Can you get a safe, with a lock and key, and put your most important posessions in there? Or a lock for your closet and dresser drawers? Maybe just a lock for the door to your room itself. You may have to let your parents in once a week or so, to see you are keeping it in good order and clean. Wear the key around your neck and keep it with you everywhere.

[pegasus]

Get a lock put on your door.

[madisgram]

yeah, peg's idea is the solution, imho. you can install a quickset lock that won't damage the existing knob. your key will open it.

[Perna]

I would go into her room when she's there and quietly take your things back a few times. I would treat her "gently" as if she has a problem and try to freak her out that way Feel "sorry" for her that she has to resort to taking her little sister's things, can't adjust to her own age/situation. Maybe next time you get/buy something you like and think she would, get her one too and give it to her as a gift and be all "caring" when you give it to her. When she calls you names, respond with vague, kind, responses, "That's okay, everything will be okay, I know you can't help it, I'm here for you".

[eskielover]

Yea Perna......like her suggestion best of all....& may be the only thing that works if your parents don't think there is a problem & be willing to get you a lock for your door.

[Lexi232]

I have... But it was a younger sister. And finally I had enough and went out and confronted her and was like "Where is it!?" and she denied it and i was like "okay so lets go to your room, and if i find it there i'm telling the parents!" and sure enough that was there, along with a whole bunch more that i didn't notice was missing.
And I told, and i was the one who got in trouble as for "setting her up" and "putting things up in my room that would tempt her to take them" gah! My best friend was there when it happened and she saw the whole thing and was like "wtf?!"
I know your frustraition..
Thankfully I could leave the situation by moving out all together.. but.. if you dont have that option, I would find a way to get a lock. or a chest with a lock on it and keep the really important things in it.
I was hiding a lot of my stuff in the closet under a pile of my clothes and i was still getting told i was the one setting her up by tempting her. and my door was closed at all times and she was told the house rules were not to go inside that room..

[Evening]

I had situations that were similar, but a bit different. When I lived with my auntie my cousin used to come into my room, steal things, then give them back to me as gifts that he found. I found a few things in his room that were mine. He only took small things though. Then I had another cousin who used to snoop, and she would steal. Once at my grandparents we were staying the night, I got there before she did so I decided as a joke to hide under the dresser to scare her. Well she walked in the room, took one look at my new bag, and started going through it. Another time years later I moved into my own place and she came to help with getting a few left over things from my mothers. A few weeks later I went to my cousins, and she was wearing one of my belts that had been at my mothers, turns out she took it because I 'said I didnt like it', which is obviously a valid excuse to take someones belongings and sticking it down your jumper. Then as I was confronting her about it, my auntie walked in to hang up some clothes, including something belonged to me! I have such a mistrust now, every time something goes missing I instantly think someone has stolen it. I did a drawing in school that I got a mark of 12/10 for, that wasnt even finished, and I havent seen it since I stupidly decided to leave my cousin alone in my house one day...

[NazApple]

Kill her with kindness. Be so sweet, it makes her sick. Mwaaahahaha! Sorry...

[handheart]

Well maybe its not the best advice but i think you should confront her because its think you weak of you can stoll also her things and you will see that she will think twice before it will do it to you again