[black-roses]

I have been asking myself why is it had for other people to see me naked weather it be nudes or whether weren't we all humans in the physical before we were thought as "sexual". All I am saying is I feel I have changed my view of nudity it used to be a private and conservative thing but now I feel to comfortable to hide any aspect of myself. Someone sees my body at the beach who cares someone sees nudes of a friend or random girls who cares. Nudity is only as offensive and shameful as you make it out to be there are honestly people who show there friends nudes just because they don't see the fuss in it and don't view it as others do like an object or sexualized some of them just show friends as appreciation or something good that happened in there lives. My point is not everyone views the body the same way I do my point is you could be used to thinking the body is shameful and then someone could just talk about what you'd be like naked and then you'd feel like they degraded you when you are the one who views sexuality and nudity as degrading and shameful. My point is that it is very common to thrown our beliefs on other people especially if we have no idea where they come from or understand how our conditioning played a role in who we are. My point is just because a guy's brags about a girl's sexuality and shames them by calling them sluts doesn't mean all men feel the same way.

[Perna]

I believe sexuality and nudity are personal things in that one has to work with another one-on-one and understand that person's views as well as one's own, etc. No, just because a guy is disrespectful of a woman/women in his life does not mean all men are like that.

[Onward2wards]

I have never understood why a guy would brag about a woman's sexuality (or rather, his "conquest" of it) and then turn around and shame her, calling her a "slut" etc. Is he secretly ashamed of sex but still wants it? Is he trying to socially control people? It seems both cruel and illogical. I have much more interesting words for it than cruel and illogical, but will stick with those.

[black-roses]

To be honest I don't understand why any guy would even talk about another sexuality I guess there bored and inexperienced and know very little about sex and very naive. I usually find that men that shame women are ignorant little children which both lack the experience and lack social understanding.

[amandalouise]

my views is nudity is not sexuality. in my culture nudity is just a physical state of not being clothed, not having any clothing on, and also in some sort of state of undress. in my culture the naked body is just how we were born, can you imagine if human beings were born fully clothed...my point we come into this world fully naked, there is nothing wrong with a naked body and there is nothing sexual with a naked body, it is only thoughts and actions that make a naked body sexual. many people in this world who have this same belief visit nudist camps, beaches, communities just so they can be with like minded people, that the human naked body is just that a naked body, there are times where I prefer as little clothing as possible and enjoy those times when I am able to be naked. (my wife and I dont get completely naked around our children anymore. All three are now past the breast feeding stages and into the ...whats that? stage and learning that there are situations where we really need to leave our clothes on for safety reasons stages.) but there are times when my wife or I voice our opinion for the days gone by where we could bounce around the house with not a stitch of clothing on. this usually results children having time with their favorite relatives or friends so that my wife and I can have a bit of time ala nude. sometimes our conversations and actions lead to sex and other times we are just comfortable as is.

my point to me sexuality and a naked body does not go hand in hand, its more the two compliment each other.

[amandalouise]

since my post above had to do with just how I felt on nudity and the thread is about sexuality also thought I would post my views on sexuality. to me sexuality is a frame of mind, a mental process. its how a person ....feels... about their self and those around them. a fully clothed person can feel that they are pretty, happy, good self esteem self worth, feel they are capable of having sex, comfortable with their sexual orientation (lgbt or h) comfortable with their gender preferences or assigned at birth, their desires, hopes and dreams, how they look physically...

example when I look in the mirror I see a woman who is happy with how she looks, Im comfortable knowing I am a lesbian, I know that I am worth loving\ caring for and about myself and having others love and care about me not only in the physical sense, I am confident in my abilities as a wife, mother, and my career, I have a sense of self respect and pride in myself and those around me. when I look at my wife I find that she is sexy...she has her own self confidence, self worth, self respect, she knows she is worth loving and caring for her self and others and having others love and care about her. she is also comfortable with her body, gender and being a lesbian.

my point to me the word sexuality is more than just hopping into bed with someone. its how a person feels about their self and others.

My own 'views' and behavior change and fluctuate between extremes in direct correlation between my mental states of Depression and Mania.

[black-roses]

Originally Posted by justafriend306

My own 'views' and behavior change and fluctuate between extremes in direct correlation between my mental states of Depression and Mania.

I feel like that a lot of the time my mother says I change my likes and dislikes from day to night. The only reason I tell you what my mother says is she observes me 24/7 so she has the most accurate evalution on my behaviour. To be honest I think it's true I change career path in every few hours readjusting it and I tell you it is very exhausting. Though I don't think I have mania it is very common for adhd to fluctuate as we always have a lot of thoughts going in our minds all the time.