[anxiousAmphibian]

I have recently discovered that my mother has DNP, or Parental Destructive Narcissism and honestly I am only just coming into realization about what that means to me. It's become apparent that the struggles I've had with recently moving in with my boyfriend are all correlated with my issues with my mother.

I honestly don't know how and when I'm going to tell my boyfriend about these feelings. I guess more than anything I need someone to talk to about all of this.

Is there anyone on this website who has experience in this area and can help me explain to my boyfriend exactly what I'm going through?

[amandalouise]

Originally Posted by anxiousAmphibian

I have recently discovered that my mother has DNP, or Parental Destructive Narcissism and honestly I am only just coming into realization about what that means to me. It's become apparent that the struggles I've had with recently moving in with my boyfriend are all correlated with my issues with my mother.

I honestly don't know how and when I'm going to tell my boyfriend about these feelings. I guess more than anything I need someone to talk to about all of this.

Is there anyone on this website who has experience in this area and can help me explain to my boyfriend exactly what I'm going through?

if this was me i would first talk with the treatment provider who diagnosed this.. reason being is that here in the USA there is no mental or physical health disorders \diseases called Parental Destructive Narcissism.

here where I am located the phase Parental Destructive Narcissism is short hand for saying a parent who is diagnosed with Narcissistic Personality Disorder had parenting styles and parenting patterns that were destructive (harmful) to their children. kind of like saying a parent with borderline personality disorder had parenting styles that was harmful to their child.

my point I would talk to the treatment provider to find out exactly what they mean when diagnosing someone with the disorder, get the information what it is and so on from the treatment provider. this way you will have the words you need in order to explain what you or your parent are diagnosed with.

one thing about mental and physical health problems in my location is that no one needs to know anything except what you want to tell them, so my suggestion is just tell him what ever it is that you want him to know about you and your family.

one thing I go by with talking to others about family history and my health issues is that if I dont know what to say this is a red flag to me saying Im not ready to tell them anything. its ok to not tell personal information if you feel you dont know what to say or not sure if you want to say anything.

[mugwort2]

First time ever heard of DNP. Is it in the latest DSM? Much more relevant how did you come to this conclusion regarding your mother? Are you absolutely certain?