[SamoyedsAreGreat]

Hi guys, I'm currently living at university and I am having a tough time dealing with loneliness. I've always had a hard time when it comes to this, often my opinions on my relationships flip and I feel like I have nobody close to me.

Growing up I found it very easy to make friends at school and college and was excited to try and make new friends here, it's something I looked forward to all year and helped me get through some dark times. However I arrived here in September last year and I found I don't get along with my flatmates a great deal, nobody in my lectures and I haven't met anyone doing other things such as the gym or joining societies. As such I've gotten used to doing everything on my own which is making me very miserable however my work has been able to distract me most of the time.

I'm now part way through a two week break I have, I have no work to do at all, the loneliness is getting quite strong already and I'm only a few days in. If it was mild loneliness I wouldn't mind however the thought of being alone makes me scared, my closest friend visited recently and when they left I found it difficult not to cry.

I was wondering if anyone has advice for me on how to improve my chances at meeting people or could tell me of communities I could try to join? It's not that I don't like the people I've met, some of them I have liked a lot, it's just no one seems to notice me so I'm becoming a bit of a lone wolf.

If anyone replies I really appreciate it, I've tried multiple sites and I'm always ignored online just like in real life which makes me feel even worse.

I'm sorry if this is in the wrong section of the forum, wasn't sure where to post this really.

[possum220]

Is there something that you enjoy might enjoy doing? Not because you had to do something but just for you? What did you like to do as a kid? Do you have a passion? Work can be a great distraction from loneliness.

Hoping you can find a way to take the edge off the pain.

[Gojamadar]

Originally Posted by SamoyedsAreGreat

Hi guys, I'm currently living at university and I am having a tough time dealing with loneliness. I've always had a hard time when it comes to this, often my opinions on my relationships flip and I feel like I have nobody close to me.

Growing up I found it very easy to make friends at school and college and was excited to try and make new friends here, it's something I looked forward to all year and helped me get through some dark times. However I arrived here in September last year and I found I don't get along with my flatmates a great deal, nobody in my lectures and I haven't met anyone doing other things such as the gym or joining societies. As such I've gotten used to doing everything on my own which is making me very miserable however my work has been able to distract me most of the time.

I'm now part way through a two week break I have, I have no work to do at all, the loneliness is getting quite strong already and I'm only a few days in. If it was mild loneliness I wouldn't mind however the thought of being alone makes me scared, my closest friend visited recently and when they left I found it difficult not to cry.

I was wondering if anyone has advice for me on how to improve my chances at meeting people or could tell me of communities I could try to join? It's not that I don't like the people I've met, some of them I have liked a lot, it's just no one seems to notice me so I'm becoming a bit of a lone wolf.

If anyone replies I really appreciate it, I've tried multiple sites and I'm always ignored online just like in real life which makes me feel even worse.

I'm sorry if this is in the wrong section of the forum, wasn't sure where to post this really.

Hi,
Imagin yourself living on an iceberg, alone and tell yourself: "I have got to be happy".
I did not have the opportunity to go to university, however I stayed at sparse and bare, basic university accomodations quite a few times, attending various sporting and cultural events.
I always wondered at the many different activities going on in students unions and social groups. Perhaps you should seek out some activity you would like to try?
Try to open up!