Have you ever found out something about someone that you wish you could somehow un-know?

What are you supposed to do when it is something so disturbing that just imagining it makes you feel physically ill?

What do you do if it's something you simply cannot tell another soul,ever,because it could cause so much harm,not just to yourself but to other people as well?

And what if you are actually afraid of what you know?Like,even afraid that someone may even find out you know?

How do you possibly un-know something?

Yes. I am Catholic, but lapsed for many years and this is what is making me reconcile with the church this year so that I can unburden myself from it in confession.

Thanks,but what if it's something you can never tell another person?

I am not catholic but even if I was it's definitely not anything I would confess.

[TishaBuv]

Are you afraid of being hurt if someone finds out you know? It sounds like you know about a crime.

Have a look at descansos Descansos - Roadside Memorials on the American Highway: a photographic exploration - Photography by Dave Nance - from a book by Clarissa Pinkola Estes. She uses it with clients who have been traumatised by war and cannot put their experiences into words.

[TishaBuv]

I would like to un-know the sexcapades of my friend. The imaginary visual images are gross. But that doesn't compare to yours.

[amandalouise]

given that I had and have dissociative disorders its actually very easy for me to not know or forget things.

short version normal people have a normal situation called normal forgetfulness. dissociative's like me, any time there is anything of a traumatic or upsetting nature my brain automatically slips into dissociating that traumatic or upsetting thing.

as a dissociative i actually have to work very hard every day, every moment on grounding and other therapeutic tools that help me to remain in the present moment/ fully aware of what is going on with in my body and outside my body, including things like finding out something traumatic or upsetting.

my point after putting in so much work on my dissociative problems over the past so many years, I prefer knowing even if its of a traumatic upsetting nature vs forgetting.

I'm not saying there arent things I would rather had not known about because there are. as apart of being a human being with the kind of versatile thinking/ reasoning brain that works the body and senses, theres always going to be this or that , which I would rather have known about. but even then I continue to follow my treatment plans of grounding and other therapeutic tools to remain present/ non dissociated and I take care of the problem rather than my automatic escape route of dissociation.

taking care of the problem may mean calling my treatment provider and scheduling an appointment. other times taking care of it means using my therapy tools, other times depending upon the problem may need action in the way of reporting to the appropriate people and agencies to ensure unsafe people who may be a danger to their self or others.get the help that they may need.

Originally Posted by TishaBuv

Are you afraid of being hurt if someone finds out you know?

I know that I definitely would be.

Originally Posted by amandalouise

.taking care of the problem may mean calling my treatment provider and scheduling an appointment. other times taking care of it means using my therapy tools, other times depending upon the problem may need action in the way of reporting to the appropriate people and agencies to ensure unsafe people who may be a danger to their self or others.get the help that they may need.

Thanks,but this is not something my therapist or anyone else can help me with.

I probably shouldn't have posted at all because really,seriously,it's just one of those things that I just have to find a way to let go of and never speak of.

Who was so selfish as to unburden themselves and to transfer the burden to you?

(Rhetorical, I know you can't answer.)

<this is why I hate secrets. they unburden one person while burdening another.>