[newtus]

I very rarely get any sort of text or call from anyone. Maybe my dad a few times a week but not even my mom or anyone else.

No one in my life initiates texts or calls with me. If i dont text or call someone ill never hear from them for an extremely long time. Like weeks probably. (Tried it before).

I use a lot of social media to fulfill my loneliness like instagram, facebook, twitter, snapchat, etc.

Anyone experience this?

[tallen01]

Yes, I am on my phone all the time to the point it's effecting my eyes. I call my grandma (she raised me) 5-10 times a day to talk. Other than her and my fiancé I interact with nobody. I just stalk Facebook I never post anything, I also like to research things on my phone.

I'm in the same boat. I don't remember being more lonely in my entire life. I don't use the Internet, though, as a way for social interactions. It's more out of boredom.

[*Laurie*]

Originally Posted by tallen01

Yes, I am on my phone all the time to the point it's effecting my eyes. I call my grandma (she raised me) 5-10 times a day to talk. Other than her and my fiancé I interact with nobody. I just stalk Facebook I never post anything, I also like to research things on my phone.

I wish I was your grandma. She's lucky.

[Cyllya]

I don't have loneliness specifically, but I have a tendency to "get stuck" on activities, and when I'm depressed, it gets much worse. Since I don't have the energy/enthusiasm/capacity for any good activities, I tend to do crappy mildly boring things for a long time, in order to stave off the more severe boredom of doing nothing. Sometimes the crappy mildly boring activities are social media (facebook, forums like this, funny picture websites). I remember once thinking, "I know I must be depressed because the internet has run out of captioned cat pictures I haven't seen yet!"

I pretty much only use Facebook to keep up to date and communicate with existing friends. I myself would never use social media to make friends. But this I understand is pretty rare.

From the other side of the fence, I can say I do have problems with other people's use of such - and smart phones - that have impact upon me. I get a great deal of pressure for example to use Skype and other modes of internet communication. People expect me to have lengthy text conversations - which I don't believe is what a phone is for (just me). The whole purpose of a phone to me is to use it for phonecalls. Nothing annoys me more than someone texting me for a full chat. Call me then!

I agree though that I feel lonely when people don't contact me. I have begun reaching out however and that has improved things.

[newtus]

I know a few people personally that refuse to use the phone and prefer texting for long chats and such. Idk why.

[Teddy Bear]

I don't get many calls either. I think Facebook eliminates those.

[MickeyCheeky]

I can relate a lot No one ever looks for me, or contacts me.. not even on the Internet, sometimes.

I'm sorry you're struggling with loneliness, too

I have struggled with this as well. Especially Facebook. I still do. But I just deactivated my Facebook account. It is hard. It's like an addiction. But I wonder / think / hope, that by not having it, I will be more social in real life. I'm also reading the book Feeling Loved by Jeanne Segal, and it inspired me. She talks a lot about in person relationships and dedicates a whole chapter to the detriments of online communication.

[newtus]

After researching it, it seems a lot of people have an addiction to social media and texting. Which in turn can make people feel very lonely if they dont get a notification.

But those that are already lonely turn to social media to combat that loneliness.

[unaluna]

Yeah its like pc and the new york times and cnn.com are my major social outlets.

[Marylin]

I am alone most of the time,I talk to my mum and niece on the phone and text my niece too.There is no one else that I know though and I get lonely and isolated a lot.I go to the cinema but I am always alone.I realise it is up to me to initiate friendships and that relationships are hard work.I think I have fear of being hurt and so back off and find excuses not to make the effort.This leaves me with the pain of being so lonely and makes things worse not better,some people I speak to about this say it is confidence I lack.

I have this forum and I like Twitter.Facebook is an awful place,there is a lot of abusive people there,sexist ,racist,etcI prefer not to socialise on there,but am about to open an account cos there is a cancer sufferers support group on there I want access to.I would be more painfully isolated if I didn't have the computer or internet.