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Old Aug 05, 2017, 05:06 PM
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Sorry if this is the wrong place but I didn't know where else to put it

So my mum has a few issues (I still live at home), these are described better in my other post but in summary she has a stimulant laxative problem (takes far too many every day) and an alcohol problem (drinks at least a bottle of wine every night, can't give up).

She won't even talk about any of this and just changes the subject. My dad knows and we've discussed it in the past and he just says there's nothing we can do (which is true) so he won't talk about it either.I'm not close to my family.

And I just cant stop thinking about it. About what might happen in the future - which does make me feel a bit selfish actually - and just her issues really. But I just can't get her issues out of my head, which I know sounds ridiculous!

Please, does anyone have any advice?

Thank you

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Old Aug 05, 2017, 10:22 PM
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Hi _t_h_r_o_w_a_w_a_y welcome to psych central. It is not easy solving people's problems when they do not want to solve their own problems. You may want to spend more time on self care so you do not get burned out byt the challenges all around you that the people involved do not want to face. This can be having adequate sleep, good food, exercise, hobbies and friends or acquaintances.

these links may speak to the issues and challenges you face

https://blogs.psychcentral.com/imper...el-in-control/

https://psychcentral.com/lib/dealing...in-alcoholism/


https://psychcentral.com/lib/coping-...ing-disorders/

https://psychcentral.com/lib/coping-...-disorders/92/
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Old Aug 06, 2017, 01:12 PM
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Hello. Welcome to PC. I'm sorry you're having such a tough time. It's true you can't help someone who doesn't want it. If it is distressing to you, you might want to limit exposure to her. In the meantime, be gentle with yourself and possibly consult with a therapist.
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Old Aug 06, 2017, 03:59 PM
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Don't know your age but I would put some level of focus on getting away from there as soon as it becomes possible so it's not in your face constantly pointing out the problem by living around it.

You not only can't change her but you also can't change what is in her future. We all make choices in our lives & have live with the consequences those choices cause. If they are unwilling to address the problem we just have to realize it's out of our hands & walk away....that doesn't mean you can't or shouldn't be there if anything changes....but for the time being its best to detach from the situation....(called self-care)
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