[eclairparty98]

So I'm going to attempt dating soon. I'm nervous about many, many, many things -- too much, it seems. I've done it before and it went well but I was different then (a year ago). Now, I look a lot different. Of course, I'm a year older and to be honest I've enjoyed food a lot more as a single person than I did then in the dating world.

Well, the problem is I don't really like the idea of putting my face out there for random strangers to decide whether or not to message me. If any of you know about dating apps, it seems many people go by face value whether they'll message you or not.

I had no problem with this at the time and I never messaged anyone partially due to my anxiety. Back then I shaved, mositurised ritualistically and styled my hair every day. Now, I'm a little more relaxed and shave my head. I'm probably a different ''type'' as I've drastically changed my appearance and probably won't attract the same type of person which isn't the end of the world so long as they're not murderous in any way.

Basically, in short, I'm not comfortable with being objectified and prejudged and don't know how to tackle this. I have three weeks until therapy. So three weeks of dealing with this thought. It's best I get it out of the way A.S.A.P. The good news is, it'll cancel out the overly-judgmental shallow people, I guess.

[LaraR4444]

My understanding of the photos on dating sites was that it is sometimes/somewhat about superficiality and somewhat about the personal feeling, sense of trust, and a hook you get when you see a face. On all social media, faces and more personal accounts attract more attention because it draws us in on a human level whether it's a dating thing or not. So, superficiality is always a part of it, and you certainly don't have to subject yourself to it if you don't want to, but I think it's not the whole thing.