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Default Feb 09, 2021 at 02:03 AM
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Okay, after giving this much thought, here's what I came up with.

"Pain is an opportunity"
"Humor is a gift"

Pain is usually inflicted by another person, I think. You cannot avoid it so once it is done, you must decide how your going to deal with it. In a positive or negative way. You have the opportunity to rise above those who would hurt you.

Humor is a gift that can dispel a bad mood. It's hard to be depressed when you're laughing your butt off. I personally recommend watching "Minions". It is impossible to watch those guys and not laugh all the way through.

Just some stuff that fell out of my brain.

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Default Feb 09, 2021 at 06:21 AM
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Okay, after giving this much thought, here's what I came up with.

"Pain is an opportunity"
"Humor is a gift"

Pain is usually inflicted by another person, I think. You cannot avoid it so once it is done, you must decide how your going to deal with it. In a positive or negative way. You have the opportunity to rise above those who would hurt you.

Humor is a gift that can dispel a bad mood. It's hard to be depressed when you're laughing your butt off. I personally recommend watching "Minions". It is impossible to watch those guys and not laugh all the way through.

Just some stuff that fell out of my brain.
This is a great conclusion to come to and reminds me of this quote:

Pain Is A Gift??

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This is a great conclusion to come to and reminds me of this quote:

Pain Is A Gift??
Winston Churchill also said, "If you're going through hell, keep going".

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Winston Churchill also said, "If you're going through hell, keep going".
I happen to agree with that quote as well! Like Dori in Finding Nemo... just keep swimmin', keep swimmin'. lol.

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Default Feb 10, 2021 at 02:34 PM
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My husband lives with a chronic neurological pain syndrome. No gift there - not directly. But . . . even he would say that having lived with his pain for almost 35 years now, he has acquired an ability to prioritize, to appreciate, to adapt, to persevere, in ways that have changed him in positively. It wasn't the pain itself that was a "gift," but the changes along the way that have gifted him with some really positive attributes that he might not have acquired is he hadn't had to deal with his challenges.

It seems like the oversimplification and misuse of such a trite phrase is probably where most people take issue.

I've lived through some horribly painful experiences myself, and I would never say they were somehow okay because they made me stronger. Never. I would say the journey following the painful experiences eventually led me to a much healthier me (but that was a slow and painful journey in itself).

I don't think everyone necessarily reaches that place where they can see or live beyond that original or chronic pain (physical or psychological). Some do, but it is not a quick process that some trite phrase will automatically send you through, and people who speak in idiomatic expressions and aphorisms tend to come off as condescending, impersonal, unsympathetic jerks. LOL.
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The degree of pain I've experienced in my 58 years on earth? A gift my azz.

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Default Feb 14, 2021 at 03:31 PM
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In all fairness to Mr. Smith, I thought I should post his thoughts on it.

I quote:
"Pain is a gift. It is to me.
Anything that tries to bring you down,
that hurts, use it as a fuel.
Use it to make you a stronger person."

I really think he's referring to 'ordinary' things that are painful. I can't help but wonder if he has any concept of people like us. I think he would be much less generous with his platitudes.

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