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Old 04-07-2021, 01:03 PM   #11
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Not introducing himself was certainly odd. Besides that...hard to tell. I've had plenty of massages in my life from both women and men. I've never had one that wasn't painful at some times. It's up to the client, really, to speak up if the therapist is too heavy-handed (most of them are).

As for remarking that your skin is clammy, I don't exactly understand why that offended you. But doesn't he use massage oil or lotion? He should.
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Old 04-08-2021, 03:37 AM   #12
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I did give him a one star review, lol. To my surprise, it's his first negative review. I suspect that a lot of his reviews are from people that he knows based on his responses. I recently found out that that one extremely good review was from his own mother which I found to be a bit creepy.

Does anyone else think that's creepy too to have given a massage to your own mom?
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Old 04-08-2021, 03:40 AM   #13
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Yes, all of those things were red flags! AND I felt panicky the first two times. The third time I had to take valium to calm down. I haven't had to take any for weeks before then! I was stupid to ignore my gut feeling! I should've NEVER come back after the first time!
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I agree, a massage isn't supposed to be painful! I was in pain for over a week after the last time! That is NOT normal!
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The clammy skin comment was rude as it's like saying someone feels gross or dirty. He shouldn't make clients feel judged. Would you be OK with someone telling you that your skin feels clammy during a massage?
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I did give him a one star review, lol. To my surprise, it's his first negative review. I suspect that a lot of his reviews are from people that he knows based on his responses. I recently found out that that one extremely good review was from his own mother which I found to be a bit creepy.

Does anyone else think that's creepy too to have given a massage to your own mom?

No, I don't think it's creepy. Therapeutic massage is not intended to be a sexual thing. It's purpose is to help heal the body. It sounds like you're unsure of the role of a massage therapist.
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My mom has given me massages. She's not a professional though.
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The clammy skin comment was rude as it's like saying someone feels gross or dirty. He shouldn't make clients feel judged. Would you be OK with someone telling you that your skin feels clammy during a massage?

Sine a massage therapist is a health practitioner, his comment about 'clammy skin' may be something he noticed indicating your overall health, or your anxiety.

It sounds like you are not comfortable with the massage treatment. You'd be better off not returning, imo.
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Listen to your gut. Go check out another massage therapist. Then make a comparison. You can always go back to this guy. But give someone else a shot. I think you can do better.
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