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Default Oct 15, 2021 at 10:04 AM
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I really hate going to the shops, it's like he knows my routine it can't be a coincidence that he's there everytime I'm there and follows me everywhere. I honestly am to scared to sleep I think he's an asshole bastard and no one should have to go through what I'm going through. I should be able to move freely without disgusting assholes saying sexually repugnant things. He has a foot fetish right and says stuff about me ****ing other guys I mean that's so gross. I wanted to punch him the last time, I just yelled at him telling him to stop staring at me and moved to the other side of the shops because for a moment I felt like I was gonna lose control and punch him.
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Default Oct 15, 2021 at 10:22 AM
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Have you reported him to the police?

Seems to me the best option at this point.

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I’d also report him, as many times as you need to until something is done about him. You don’t know his intentions.
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Default Oct 15, 2021 at 03:31 PM
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I'm going to report him to the police and there's cctv of him following me and staring into the changerooms he also says degrading sexual things to me. I've had people come up to me coz saying he's trying to read what I'm typing I think he's crazy and belongs in a psych ward.
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Default Oct 15, 2021 at 06:19 PM
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I have my CC....nobody even considers messing around with me. But reporting to the police is your wisest choice

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Make sure to keep any harassing texts or emails he sends you to show as evidence to the police. It's good they have caught him on video.
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Unhappy Nov 09, 2021 at 05:55 PM
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Yeah. This must be very uncomfortable for you.

I know the feeling all too well. Some troll has been pestering me for years on the Internet, and trying to find out all he can about my life. So I understand how frustrating stalking truly is. In many cases too, the person doing it is normally a well known figure in your vicinity, which makes it super creepy.

Sadly, unless you have evidence to present, the authorities will usually tell such complainers to just "ignore it". With the police these days, I have to question their usefulness. They seem to take a blind eye to incidents that most folk see as being a cause for concern.
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Default Nov 14, 2021 at 07:09 PM
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I am so sorry black-roses you are going through this. It sounds extremely scary. As others have said, please report to the police, but don't expect to anything to come out of it. Police don't take stalkers too seriously. Please safeguard your home - solid locks on doors and windows, iron grills so they cannot enter. Keep something to safeguard yourself - pepper spray or something. It's often said that stalkers like your attention. Even negative attention like showing your frustration, eye rolling, yelling, nervousness - they apparently love to see your reaction. So try your best to avoid reacting at all. Whenever you out, go out with sunglasses so they can't see what your seeing, your expressions. Just avoid looking at them. I've read that they eventually get bored and move on to their next target. So hope your stalker moves on too. But please always maintain distance. Hopefully he'll move on and leave you alone.

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I don't think pepper spray is legal in Australia. Only way for a woman to defend herself is martial arts I guess.
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Have you blocked him everywhere, all social media, all numbers, all email addresses?

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Default Dec 01, 2021 at 04:12 AM
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Yes I have. Pepper spray is legal in Western Australia, my sister wanted to give me hers I think I'll just let her.
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Default Dec 01, 2021 at 06:43 PM
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yeah, that's not a bad idea. Make sure you know how to use it though.
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Default Dec 11, 2021 at 09:45 AM
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I’d also report him, as many times as you need to until something is done about him. You don’t know his intentions.
I agree, I'd also report him. And as many times as you need to until something is done.

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