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Hello, wondering if anyone can help me. I am struggling, currently I'm struggling with anxiety and body image issues which leads to eating issues. Today a close relative posted a picture of me that I hate and refused to take it down. It makes me feel sick and disgusted by myself when I look at it, tried to explain this to them but they won't listen. I feel awful both because I feel this way about myself and because of the fact that I have such a strong reation to this image. I've been in therapy for most of this year because I had dark depressive thoughts earlier this year which led me to attempt. It doesn't feel like it's working. I'm a high school senior and currently back in pyschical school but I have no friends there I am just alone by myself I have no one to talk to or to ask what to do. I lso live in a home where my father is verbally abusive to my mother I live i fear everyday that he will use brute force agaisnt her or me. I hate my life I used to want to run away but not I just have gotten back into the place of wanting to end it all. I don't know what to do. Has anyone ever experienced this before?
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Also, it sounds like your close family member is not respecting your boundaries. While they might have legal right to post a picture of you on their social media site, you might also have legal civil rights of your own, depending on how that picture is being used. If you are alone in that picture, it's really wrong of your family member to do that. However, if you are with someone else in that picture, then perhaps your family member posted it for other reasons, such as perhaps that is the only photo of that particular memory that your family member cherishes. But it does sound like your family is toxic, based on your descriptions. If you are in the U.S., and you feel your life or someone in your home's life is in danger, you can always call 9-1-1 or the non-emergency line (2-1-1 or 3-1-1) in your area. One of those lines can also give you a few hotline numbers as well - some local, some national. RAINN, the Domestic Violence hotlines, and other hotlines can assist you, too. If you are in a different country, you can try doing a google search for hotlines and crisis organizations that can help, perhaps. Be safe, and let us know how things are going. |
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Yes, I was there as a kid. It's exactly for I felt before I got professional help for depression. The thing about being a minor is you may need to tell your parents in order to get that help. Sounds like you are scared of your dad. Do you think your mom could help? If you don't feel comfortable talking to your parents, can you talk to a teacher or the school counselor? Honestly, my school counselor was pretty useless and didn't understand depression, but I hope they are better now and can at least connect you to some resources. |
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If you are in immediate danger, don't hesitate to dial 9-1-1 or phone a friend or neighbor to call 9-1-1 for you, if you are afraid to keep a record of your calls on your own cell phone or computer or tablet.
If you need further local assistance for non-emergency issues, such as finding resources for teens and children who are experiencing or witnessing domestic violence, intimate partner violence, child maltreatment, violence, and/or crime, dial: 2-1-1 (Mass 211) or dial: 3-1-1 (Boston 311) Also, here are some helpful websites and hotline numbers, in case you need them. NATIONAL RESOURCES: 24/7 Crisis Chat: National Domestic Violence Hotline 24/7 Crisis Call: (800) 799-7233 (SAFE) 24/7 Crisis Text: 88788 RAINN - National Sexual Assault Hotline 24/7 Crisis Hotline: (800) 656-4673 BOSTON RESOURCES: DOMESTIC VIOLENCE: Mass.gov Domestic Violence Programs CHILD MALTREATMENT: SafeLink - Casa Myrna 24/7 Crisis Hotline: (877) 785-2020 24/7 Crisis Hotline: (877) 521-2601 (TTY) Mass.gov Child Abuse and Neglect Child-at-Risk Hotline (800) 792-5200 Children's Trust - Stop Child Abuse Address: 55 Court Street, 4th floor, Boston, MA 02108 Phone: (617) 727-8957 Fax: (617) 727-8997 Email: info@childrenstrustma.org Boston Children's Hospital - Child Protection Program Phone: (617) 355-7979 Fax: (617) 730-0432 Safe Kids Thrive Address: 55 Court Street, 4th floor, Boston, MA 02108 Phone: (617) 727-8957 Massachusetts Children's Alliance Child Trauma Training Center Quote:
Phone: (855) LINK-KID Prevent Child Abuse Massachusetts PARENTS HOTLINE: 24/7 Parent Stress Line Phone: (800) 632-8188 LEGAL ASSISTANCE FOR VICTIMS: Mass.gov - Massachusetts Office for Victim Assistance (MOVA) Boston Office: 1 Ashburton Place, Suite 1101, Boston, MA 02108 Boston Office Voicemail: (617) 586-1340 AskMOVA Voicemail: (844) 878-6682 (MOVA) Mass.gov - Office of the Child Advocate OCA Email: childadvocate@mass.gov Complaint Line (617) 979-8360 Note: During the Covid-19 pandemic the OCA Complaint Line is receiving a high volume of calls and emails. If you contacted us and have not received a response after more than 3 business days, please call our main office number below. Main Office: (617) 979-8374 Toll Free: (866) 790-3690 For all OCA phone lines our hours are Monday through Friday, 9:00 AM to 5:00 PM Online Complaint Form Victim Rights Law Center Boston/Statewide Emails here: Local: (617) 399-6720 x19 Local (Español): (617) 399-6720 x35 Toll Free: (877) 758-8132 x19 Toll Free (Español): (877) 758-8132 x35 Mass CLAVC - Civil Legal Aid for Victims of Crime Contact CLAVC Lawyer Find more resources in the Boston area here. NOTE: You can be protected if you report an issue to one of the agencies, and you can also ask for an advocate to help you. It does not always mean that your parents will get in trouble, and it does not always mean that the situation will worsen if you report what is going on. Sometimes there are "wraparound services" that are available to help your family get the care they need - including benefits such as counseling, monetary assistance, etc. If you are witnessing repeated domestic violence and/or intimate partner violence from your dad to your mom, then you can help your mom and yourself escape that situation by asking someone to help you without tipping off your dad. Your mom may or may not agree with that plan, but there are adults who know how to professionally and safely handle that. If you have siblings - younger or older - who are being maltreated by either of your parents, you can ask for assistance with that, too. That is included in domestic violence, but it is specific to child maltreatment (child abuse and neglect). Sometimes witnessing domestic violence also endangers the child as well as constitutes child neglect. If you report these things and ask for help, the professionals can also help find you and your family counseling. You can address your concerns and fears to whomever you speak with, and you can try to speak anonymously at first, if you are unsure about going this route. But make sure that you are first and foremost safe, and that your family is safe. Also, reach out to your school if you don't feel comfortable using your phone, tablet, or computer to make these calls. You can perhaps log into a school's computer to access this information, print it out, and take it with you or show your school counselor or teacher this list of resources. Your school is likely to also have additional resources that work directly with student reports of domestic violence, intimate partner violence, and/or child maltreatment. |
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Have you been able to share your current thoughts and feelings with your therapist? |
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Thank you everyonr for your responses. I have an appoinntment today with a therapist and will tell them how I am feeling and see where I can go from there. I will keep these resources in mind if it doesn't work out. Thank you.
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I'm so glad you're seeing a therapist! I think it's your first step to feeling better!
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