Emotionally healthy

pachyderm · Jun 20, 2022 at 10:48 AM

What percent of Americans would you say are highly emotionally healthy?

unaluna · Jun 20, 2022 at 11:34 AM

Nah. Everybody crazy.

Skeezyks · Jun 20, 2022 at 12:42 PM

"Everyone's strange but me and thee. And sometimes thee acts funny", as my mother used to say...

Aurelius710 · Jun 20, 2022 at 04:54 PM

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What percent of Americans would you say are highly emotionally healthy?

Not a lot, I would say.

I read a story about a young woman who got awarded for perfect attendance her entire K-12 experience. Thirteen years of not missing school. It was her mission by the end.

My first thought: Why? Are you happy? When the buzz from the news story wears off, what else you got? It seems like a lot of effort for an unfulfilling goal.

My next thought: You do realize professors cancel class all the time? Some of your professors will be cool. Some will bore you to tears. In my case, I had one lull a student to sleep with his voice. You are going to want to skip class once in a while. Guess what, most professors don't care. If it's once in a while, that is.

I take emotionally healthy to be fulfilled. I don't think many people have found that goal. I don't know if I have, to be honest. Trying, though.

eskielover · Jun 21, 2022 at 08:45 PM

I think for the first time in my life, the last few years I finally feel emotionally healthy & physically healthy too. I am finally surrounded by people who are on the emotionally healthy side of that spectrum & I keep my distance from whose who aren't in that they are not really close friends I
socialize with often.

Fuzzybear · Jul 13, 2022 at 09:53 AM

I think probably everyone is crazy...

pachyderm · Jul 13, 2022 at 09:55 AM

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I think probably everyone is crazy...

Some more so than others.

Fuzzybear · Jul 13, 2022 at 09:59 AM

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Some more so than others.

I agree

WovenGalaxy · Jul 13, 2022 at 01:33 PM

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What percent of Americans would you say are highly emotionally healthy?

Define emotionally healthy.

downandlonely · Jul 13, 2022 at 02:25 PM

My guess is less than 1 percent.

Fuzzybear · Jul 13, 2022 at 02:29 PM

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My guess is less than 1 percent.

I also think that it's likely a very low percentage who are Highly emotionally healthy... also I'm not exactly sure what exactly it means.

downandlonely · Jul 13, 2022 at 02:37 PM

I don't know what healthy is I guess. But I sure know what unhealthy is. And I have seen a ton of that.

Fuzzybear · Jul 14, 2022 at 10:13 AM

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I don't know what healthy is I guess. But I sure know what unhealthy is. And I have seen a ton of that.

yep. I have too.

eskielover · Jul 14, 2022 at 11:14 AM

I would base the definition of "emotionally healthy" from what I have learned, on the sections in DBT called Emotional Regulation & Mindfulness. If someone has the skills to regulate their emotions & also in tune with their mind to blend their logic & emotional mind & find that balance with both so as not allow either to totally rule their actions & decision making, they are probably pretty much Emotionally Healthy people.

WovenGalaxy · Jul 14, 2022 at 04:36 PM

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I would base the definition of "emotionally healthy" from what I have learned, on the sections in DBT called Emotional Regulation & Mindfulness. If someone has the skills to regulate their emotions & also in tune with their mind to blend their logic & emotional mind & find that balance with both so as not allow either to totally rule their actions & decision making, they are probably pretty much Emotionally Healthy people.

I like your definition. I like DBT. (OK, I love DBT actually

)

eskielover · Jul 14, 2022 at 06:51 PM

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I like your definition. I like DBT. (OK, I love DBT actually

)

I am with you on loving it. It taught me the most skills so that I wouldn't go back to the dysfunctional behaviors I used relating to my dysfunctional husband in my dysfunctional marriage. Actually proved it worked when I had to go back there for a court case against him in 2018. I used all the skills I learned & stayed in control of the situations when I was dealing with him one on one when I was back there & kept my emotions in control. He used to push me till I blew up in anger.....not that time & was wise to walk away when I sensed him pushing in that direction.

downandlonely · Jul 14, 2022 at 07:33 PM

I need to see if I can find a DBT group.

MuseumGhost · Jul 14, 2022 at 09:05 PM

Taking a CBT course, early on after my diagnoses, REALLY helped me identify not just my own wrong thinking about many things, it showed me where other people's treatment of me had been either wrong and even inexcusable. I'd LOVE to take a DBT course, now, and see what I could do with that.

And thanks, Eskie, for the definition. I think you got it very close to perfect.

My feeling about the percentage of emotionally healthy people is that It's based on two sliding scales: The measure of where one falls on the emotional maturity scale, and what your home life environment was like, growing up. These two measures would tell me a lot about who is actually emotionally healthy, and who is likely to find themselves unhappy at some point or other in their lives.

In short, I think it's like how we discuss autism: I believe everyone is somewhere on a spectrum of mental health.

eskielover · Jul 14, 2022 at 09:42 PM

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Taking a CBT course, early on after my diagnoses, REALLY helped me identify not just my own wrong thinking about many things, it showed me where other people's treatment of me had been either wrong and even inexcusable. I'd LOVE to take a DBT course, now, and see what I could do with that.

And thanks, Eskie, for the definition. I think you got it very close to perfect.

My feeling about the percentage of emotionally healthy people is that It's based on two sliding scales: The measure of where one falls on the emotional maturity scale, and what your home life environment was like, growing up. These two measures would tell me a lot about who is actually emotionally healthy, and who is likely to find themselves unhappy at some point or other in their lives.

In short, I think it's like how we discuss autism: I believe everyone is somewhere on a spectrum of mental health.

Definitely a spectrum condition. I grew up in a fairly unhealthy emotional family life & married into the same in my marriage. Had a gut feel it was all dysfunctional but couldn't fight my way out of reacting to the dysfunction which created dysfunction in me. Wasn't until after my parents were no longer alive & I left my bad marriage thatcI could finally sort out with an excellent T & the DBT what all had been wrong all those years & change myself after I was no longer living in an environment I reacted very negatively to. The spectrum aspect of this can be changed unlike some other mental health issues & even knowing DBT very well, I often wonder if it would have been successful for me if I had continued to be trapped in that bad marriage.

It is amazing to compare my past with my present & see how far I came given all the years I was an active part in a very emotionally unhealthy environment. No one where I live now even knew me then so no one but me & my daughter can really see the change.

WovenGalaxy · Jul 15, 2022 at 07:58 AM

I think my definition of emotionally healthy is close to eskie's. As far as having a mental health issue being the basis for being called emotionally unhealthy, I'm not sure about that, particularly if you are working on your recovery or have skills to help you. There is something...almost offensive sounding, imo, calling someone "unhealthy" just bc they are struggling with symptoms of mental illness. I'm not sure how to put it into more words though.

Side note: MuseumGhost, I'm glad CBT helped you. I don't have a lot of experience with it, myself, but I think it could help me too.

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pachyderm Legendary Member Since Jun 2007 Location: Washington DC metro area Posts: 15,865 (SuperPoster!) 16 2,857 hugs given	Jun 20, 2022 at 10:48 AM #1 What percent of Americans would you say are highly emotionally healthy? __________________ Now if thou would'st When all have given him o'er From death to life Thou might'st him yet recover -- Michael Drayton 1562 - 1631
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downandlonely Legendary Member Since Mar 2018 Location: United States Posts: 10,760 (SuperPoster!) 6 10.6k hugs given	Jul 13, 2022 at 02:25 PM #10 My guess is less than 1 percent.
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downandlonely Legendary Member Since Mar 2018 Location: United States Posts: 10,760 (SuperPoster!) 6 10.6k hugs given	Jul 13, 2022 at 02:37 PM #12 I don't know what healthy is I guess. But I sure know what unhealthy is. And I have seen a ton of that.
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downandlonely Legendary Member Since Mar 2018 Location: United States Posts: 10,760 (SuperPoster!) 6 10.6k hugs given	Jul 14, 2022 at 07:33 PM #17 I need to see if I can find a DBT group.
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