Others opinions weighing me down

For a very long time I've experienced pain because I wanted something so much then I realised my limitations and felt absolutely stuck and powerless. It sucks people telling you, you can't be this because of lacking concentration. It makes me sad everyday because I have ADD because then I have to think about jobs that don't require concentration and then I still have people tell me with the few options left that I can't do it because that requires concentration. So in the end you just suffer because of other people's opinions that you then doubt yourself. People will always tell you the problems but they will never be realistic about what could go right and frankly I'm sick of listening to other people's black and white thinking. Sadly there will be a point where I'll have to hide what I'm studying in the future because I don't want to hear people tell me I can't do that. Coz honestly so far that's all I've ever heard. I just wish I heard all I could do right. Then I realised it's not my issue to change peoples opinions or thoughts of me but I have to change my own thoughts of me. Anyway, there no better than the teachers that kicked me out for a little bit of attention issues. People see people struggling and like to point out the flaws rather than help. I guess things like that make me desire even more to be a nurse and shine hope on people. To me I will always regret not trying because of others but they will never regret sticking there nose in things that don't concern them. Also I need to stop obsessing about the future none of this written. In the end forgetting your wants is what frees you to live in the now which is always hope and love.

I've found what has helped me is to distance myself from the nay-sayers...

Surround yourself with supportive, loving people if you can...

and whatever challenges you might face, look for examples of others in similar situations who've overcome those challenges and copy their strategies....

Best wishes to you...

Personally I had goals of getting a degree & having a career from as young as I can remember. Had no idea what degree or career but aimed myself & adjusted my life course throughout my life to meet that goal.

My dad was negative on my going to college so I just blew him off & did what I knew was right for me. My mom really said nothing. I got married when I was a junior in College. Husband said I could take a few years off to be a stay at home mom a few years after marriage. He got told in no uncertain terms where he could stick that opinion. I graduated with my Accounting & Computer Science degree 10 months after my daughter was born & had my career job offer before graduation.

Sometimes we have to just focus on the goal we want. Mine adjusted a few times cause at first I aimed for a music degree then changed as a junior. We adapt our path to our goal if necessary.

If you don't try you will never know what you can accomplish & it is your own responsibility to yourself to try in spite of what anyone else says. Go into it with an open mind & if adjusting is necessary along the way....analyze the possibilities. Regrets happen only when we don't try

People who say mean things about someone they don't even know out of spite usually hate themselves and have much bigger issues... They are snakes and should be stepped on

I don't really pay attention anymore to other's opinions of me.....I stopped doing that awhile ago......It is difficult not to compare myself to others, though.

My therapist told me that I should try not to compare myself to other people, because each person's journey is different.