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catches the flowers
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#22
I have another reason for not letting people use the bathroom - liability. If the person gets hurt, or claims to get hurt, while on the property they can sue.
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If you can develop your mind over time where chiz like that ends up just washes over you, then believe me, that's the best place to be. Because you're never going to be able to stop negative crap from happening, Ever. It's about you. 🙏
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You know what makes me mad?? When someone says OR calls the police because someone "looked suspicious". What does that even mean??
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__________________ Everyone can do magic - Cassie Nightgale the good witch. Dear Diary today will be different today I can smile it will be genuine because today is the day I get to live. This life will be good and beautiful, but not without heartbreak. In death come peace. But pain is the cost of living. Like love, it's how we know we're alive. And life goes on. That my life weird, messy, complicated, sad, wonderful, amazing, and above all epic and I owe all to Stephen. - Eleanor Gilbert Vampire Diaries |
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When I was younger, I worried what people think of me or how they look at me. People do judge others. But we probably judge others too. And people often assume they are being judged, when really no one cares, they just follow the rules or deal with their own issues. So by assuming we are being judged, we pass on judgements on those supposedly “judgemental” people. All while they don’t even care, so who judges who then. That’s just how we humans are. Nature of the beast I do agree with the advice to try ignoring what others might think about us. It’s not easy though. My husband has Tourette’s. Talking about people passing uneducated judgement and downright being bullies. People could be plain evil |
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__________________ Everyone can do magic - Cassie Nightgale the good witch. Dear Diary today will be different today I can smile it will be genuine because today is the day I get to live. This life will be good and beautiful, but not without heartbreak. In death come peace. But pain is the cost of living. Like love, it's how we know we're alive. And life goes on. That my life weird, messy, complicated, sad, wonderful, amazing, and above all epic and I owe all to Stephen. - Eleanor Gilbert Vampire Diaries |
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Given the number of members here who have been assaulted in the past, I am surprised at how many people are making judgements of people who are trusting their own inner voice warning them of potential danger. We advocate listening to that inner voice. Some times what might be perceived as discrimination might be a person keeping themself safe. Before anyone jumps on me for advocating discrimination - I am not. I have no patience with people who dislike others for their appearance. I have experienced and witnessed it. It's just plain wrong. I am struggling to say this next part and not insult anyone... Businesses should be allowed to restrict access to their site. Would you allow a stranger in your house if they knocked on the door and asked to use the bathroom? I used to work out of an office in a strip center full of other offices. At least once a week we'd get someone come in and as to use the bathroom It was not a drop in kind of business. We told them "no" because we had no idea who these people were or what they might do. It was a safety issue for us. As far as I'm concerned other businesses have the right to say no also. |
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catches the flowers
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For 15 years I worked in a funky indie coffeehouse/cafe. People could use the bathrooms freely, whether customer or not. Every now and then,
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I would never discount your gut feeling. I guess theses a fine line between being cautious and discrimination. __________________ Once you are real, you can't become unreal again. It lasts for always.... Last edited by FooZe; Jan 24, 2023 at 07:59 PM.. Reason: Removed proper name |
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#35
Since I'm having a sensitive/ b*tchy evening I'd better stop responding.
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#36
I used to work in a restaurant and a customer had walked in and informed us how bad the men restrooms was and pointed out which customers it was that left the restaurant room messy and my ex boyfriend ended up being the one who had to clean the bathroom up.
__________________ Everyone can do magic - Cassie Nightgale the good witch. Dear Diary today will be different today I can smile it will be genuine because today is the day I get to live. This life will be good and beautiful, but not without heartbreak. In death come peace. But pain is the cost of living. Like love, it's how we know we're alive. And life goes on. That my life weird, messy, complicated, sad, wonderful, amazing, and above all epic and I owe all to Stephen. - Eleanor Gilbert Vampire Diaries Last edited by FooZe; Jan 24, 2023 at 08:07 PM.. Reason: added trigger tags (to quote only) |
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This wasn't that long ago, and yes - it was a biohazard. But like I said, it was a very indie coffeehouse...the owner didn't pay much attention to laws. We wore plastic gloves to clean up all the blood in the bathroom. But it still got on my shoes. __________________ |
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#38
A lot of businesses have signs saying they have the right to refuse service to anyone. I don’t know if that includes using the restrooms. And along those lines I see signs saying “No public restrooms”.
I know where all the restrooms are in my area but still avoid drinking anything until I reach my destination, unless I know there’s a restroom there. Even so I could get stuck in traffic. Rule of thumb for me is to watch what I drink and eat unless I’m at home. No bathroom restrictions there. ——— Posted directly on site using iphone __________________ Call me "owl" for short! Hmmm....looks like some good tips in here. "Okay, enough photos. I'm a very BUSY Business Kitty, so make an appointment next time." |
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I guess it’s a complex issue, making snap decisions based on gut, past experience and the person’s appearance. All I know is that you have to go sooner or later and wish it was something not to worry about. As it is we have enough going on in the world. ——— Posted directly on site using iphone __________________ Call me "owl" for short! Hmmm....looks like some good tips in here. "Okay, enough photos. I'm a very BUSY Business Kitty, so make an appointment next time." |
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__________________ Everyone can do magic - Cassie Nightgale the good witch. Dear Diary today will be different today I can smile it will be genuine because today is the day I get to live. This life will be good and beautiful, but not without heartbreak. In death come peace. But pain is the cost of living. Like love, it's how we know we're alive. And life goes on. That my life weird, messy, complicated, sad, wonderful, amazing, and above all epic and I owe all to Stephen. - Eleanor Gilbert Vampire Diaries |
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