Building a Whole New Life

I've been saying that I'd like to write a book for about 40 years. LOL But maybe he actually will do it!

Well, he said he has outlines written - that's a start!

The pain in my hip has gotten worse. I know I need to go back to the doctor. I just haven't made the move yet. I am in a lot of pain when walking. It comes and goes, but when it comes, it's excruciating. UGH. And I am hiking on Sunday for a few hours. I hope I can hike!!!

Phil Lesh, the bassist for the Grateful Dead, died yesterday at the age of 84. I couldn't stop crying when I heard. I am sooo sad. That's the true end of the band and an era of amazing music. The only ones left are Bill, Bob Weir, and Mickey Hart, but Bill broke away from Dead and Company, so now it's just Bob Weir and Mickey Hart left. I am soooo sad and heartbroken. I've been a fan since 8th grade and saw them back in 1989. That was my first Grateful Dead show. I've seen about 25-30 Dead shows when Jerry Garcia was alive, and then after that., I saw all the different renditions of the Dead over the years... Further, Phil and Friends, The Dead, and Dead and Company. And now Phil, a legend is gone!!!

Waah....

I did a 4-mile hike yesterday, and miraculously, the pain in my leg didn't give me any trouble! I even climbed heights and steep hills, and it was fine! I am SO glad I went! It was with a group.

So, so far since I left my ex, I have kayaked, roller bladed, and now have gone hiking. Next is skiing and snow shoeing this winter! I am doing all that I wanted to do in my marriage but couldn't because of my ex's physical ailments. This makes me happy.

I am buying clothing that is much more to my liking too. I feel myself slowly but surely coming back to life post-divorce. It's a great feeling.

I have a date. I met a man two weeks ago at a show. We were outside smoking cigs, there were only a few people outside, he was standing there alone, so I walked over to say hello and introduce myself.

We ended up talking non-stop for a long while, then he followed me inside the venue and stood near me for the rest of the band's set. We basically hung around each other all night up until I decided to leave. I left on the early side, and he stayed since he knew the band. We exchanged numbers and have been texting. But he lives out of state, 1.5 hours away from where I live, so our date isn't until Nov 9, after he gets back from a trip with his kids.

He wanted to see me sooner, but I had plans that weekend, so it will be 3 weeks from the time we met to the day of our date. I got a little tired of just texting and told him it's a long time to wait for a date (via text last night). So he suggested he would call me. This was last night. We talked on the phone for over an hour. It's really easy to talk to him. This is the mathematician guy I think I've already mentioned. We had a really good phone conversation, and I felt like we were clicking well. So now it's 10 days until our date, which to me still feels far away. He is willing to drive 1.5 hours towards me. We agreed to have dinner then see music that I know is in the area on Nov 9.

I am reserved about this, but I also feel good about it at the same time. I know he could be any number of things: a psychopath, a narcissist, an abuser, toxic, a womanizer, an arrogant jerk, and so on. But so far so good.... he mainly seems interesting and dynamic to me. He's multi-faceted. He grows weed and has his own grow store, he books reggae bands on the side, and has a full time, well paying job and career in statistical analysis and assessing financial risk. He has 3 kids who are in their twenties - his youngest is graduating from college. Him having kids doesn't bother me. I don't have my own kids, but I do love kids very much. I enjoy their company, especially adult kids. I am kind of glad his are not young children - that's harder to deal with, coming in as a potential new girlfriend.

So, I will see how this all pans out. He's handsome too! He has pretty blue eyes, and dreadlocks. I like that. He's different than most men I've dated. I am kind of excited about it, but I am reserved....

I hope that all goes well! 🙂

Thanks @Bill3! We shall see!

Hi @Have Hope

Me and my family have always been interested in strength sports and combat sports, among myself, my kids, my dad, brothers, guys I hang out with, etc..

I am an educated-hobbyist strength trainer, and I've coached my son in strength sports. He's gifted.... I'm average, but I work hard

Hip pain..... Consider checking out some YouTube videos on Squat University on banded hip mobilizations. This guy is a young PhD Physiotherapist who works with Olympic level athletes and some of the top strength athletes in the world.

I've had some shoulder and low back glitches long term and his ideas really helped improve them.

https://www.youtube.com/results?sear...p+mobilization

I won't comment on the dreadlocked mathematician, except that if I was competing against him to date you, I would be intimidated..... Good luck.

RDM