rejection

I have a hard time with rejection, especially when I also feel misunderstood and when I feel that there is injustice.

I'm sure that this is linked to my dysfunctional, neglectful and abusive family of origin

Something happened recently (not here) which has triggered me and made me wonder... sort of.. why do I bother. I know this post doesn't say much. I just feel like absolute crap.

I would appreciate any hugs/support

Often I am thankful that people like that reject me because in reality I reject people who treat me like that so it is basically a mutual thing. Saves me from a future crappy relationship

It hurts when we are rejected by people whose acceptance we want. But for all those who reject us there are thousands who will accept us the way we are. Just be true to yourself. And be happy with who you are - the unique being that is you. The Universe cares for all of us and each one of us has the same validity as any other. Hang in there gorgeous.

Yes, rejection can really plumet the emotions into a horrible place Fuzzy, especially with the mental health aspects on top of it. Very relatable. Stay safe dear Fuzzybear. Stay safe, take good care of self, until you come right again...It's a very choppy sea at times, that's all I know.

Once rejection gets under your skin it never leaves it seems like

- I love you Fuzzy, you matter to me.

Rejection causes such a deep pain, especially when its from family. It gets so that one almost expects it to happen. I'm sorry that happened to you, Fuzzy. You don't deserve that.

I think you're walking the high ground Fuzzy. That's a victory. To those who know you here and know how supportive and accepting you've been to so many...you're amazing really. Even without words sometimes you show your care and concern. THAT is honesty. I wish I was as open as you in your grace with others. You are loved here...please use that knowledge to help block the bad stuff. (((big hug)))

I can relate. I've only recently discovered what a dysfunctional "family" I had and it continues in the only surviving "family" left.

Growing up I didn't feel accepted the way I was. My parents tried to mold me into something I wasn't, something they wanted me to be. It's only in the past few years I've gotten comfortable with my own skin, that I'm just fine the way I am and I'm not "too sensitive" or "too emotional". On that thinking, THEY weren't emotional or sensitive ENOUGH.

i need myself also for everyone to like me, but i know not everyone will. look at the people who do love you and try not to dwell on the ones who dont. they are trying to get under your skin but dont let them. i do hope and pray you be yourself in situations where you feel unloved. what i have learned recently is that some of the unlikeable people were actually becoming my friends. i guess they thought they had no choice knowing i would be around a while!

I feel yah... The internal struggle to pull myself up when this hairband is exhausting...

None of us like to feel rejected, fuzzy. I just think about the people who like and accept me. I am one of your friends. (I have good taste in friends. )

Rejection is such a difficult term these days and often a ugly one because people with low self-esteem love to weaponize it. If there's one thing I've learned in life, it's that no where is your identity stronger than what you build inside for yourself. If you have to depend on others to define your own personal value, you're setting yourself up to be really hurt and disillusioned. Of course everyone wants to be loved. But at what cost? I love setting personal goals for myself and do my best to communicate in a healthy way to everyone I encounter. I think respect is earned, so I always offer it to all that I meet. I love listening to what people have to say, but I'm not an open book because my standards are established. I'm centered for myself but believe everyone should have a voice for themselves. Whether I personally agree or not is not an issue to others speaking. They should have that ability to express themselves. Where I draw the line is anyone telling me I have to agree with them. That is a power grab and oppressive thinking which I will never support, regardless of the subject matter. Life (and everything that happens to you) is what YOU make of it. Accepting "yes" from someone can be your biggest mistake, as much as being inspired by someone who says "no" becomes your greatest accomplishment.

Fuzzy here's some more hugs for good measure.

For you Fuzzy