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Default Mar 24, 2024 at 01:05 PM
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I have a hard time with rejection, especially when I also feel misunderstood and when I feel that there is injustice.

I'm sure that this is linked to my dysfunctional, neglectful and abusive family of origin

Something happened recently (not here) which has triggered me and made me wonder... sort of.. why do I bother. I know this post doesn't say much. I just feel like absolute crap.

I would appreciate any hugs/support


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Default Mar 24, 2024 at 01:50 PM
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Often I am thankful that people like that reject me because in reality I reject people who treat me like that so it is basically a mutual thing. Saves me from a future crappy relationship

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Default Mar 24, 2024 at 03:26 PM
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It hurts when we are rejected by people whose acceptance we want. But for all those who reject us there are thousands who will accept us the way we are. Just be true to yourself. And be happy with who you are - the unique being that is you. The Universe cares for all of us and each one of us has the same validity as any other. Hang in there gorgeous.
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Default Mar 24, 2024 at 06:19 PM
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Yes, rejection can really plumet the emotions into a horrible place Fuzzy, especially with the mental health aspects on top of it. Very relatable. Stay safe dear Fuzzybear. Stay safe, take good care of self, until you come right again...It's a very choppy sea at times, that's all I know.

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Once rejection gets under your skin it never leaves it seems like
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Default Apr 13, 2024 at 04:56 PM
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- I love you Fuzzy, you matter to me.

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Default May 15, 2024 at 07:39 AM
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Rejection causes such a deep pain, especially when its from family. It gets so that one almost expects it to happen. I'm sorry that happened to you, Fuzzy. You don't deserve that.

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I think you're walking the high ground Fuzzy. That's a victory. To those who know you here and know how supportive and accepting you've been to so many...you're amazing really. Even without words sometimes you show your care and concern. THAT is honesty. I wish I was as open as you in your grace with others. You are loved here...please use that knowledge to help block the bad stuff. (((big hug)))
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I have a hard time with rejection, especially when I also feel misunderstood and when I feel that there is injustice.

I'm sure that this is linked to my dysfunctional, neglectful and abusive family of origin

Something happened recently (not here) which has triggered me and made me wonder... sort of.. why do I bother. I know this post doesn't say much. I just feel like absolute crap.

I would appreciate any hugs/support

I can relate. I've only recently discovered what a dysfunctional "family" I had and it continues in the only surviving "family" left.

Growing up I didn't feel accepted the way I was. My parents tried to mold me into something I wasn't, something they wanted me to be. It's only in the past few years I've gotten comfortable with my own skin, that I'm just fine the way I am and I'm not "too sensitive" or "too emotional". On that thinking, THEY weren't emotional or sensitive ENOUGH.

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I have a hard time with rejection, especially when I also feel misunderstood and when I feel that there is injustice.

I'm sure that this is linked to my dysfunctional, neglectful and abusive family of origin

Something happened recently (not here) which has triggered me and made me wonder... sort of.. why do I bother. I know this post doesn't say much. I just feel like absolute crap.

I would appreciate any hugs/support

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Default May 16, 2024 at 01:32 PM
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i need myself also for everyone to like me, but i know not everyone will. look at the people who do love you and try not to dwell on the ones who dont. they are trying to get under your skin but dont let them. i do hope and pray you be yourself in situations where you feel unloved. what i have learned recently is that some of the unlikeable people were actually becoming my friends. i guess they thought they had no choice knowing i would be around a while!
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