[mtaylor]

This is not directed at anyone
This is not to be harsh
However I am quite upset

I love to come to this site to read up on things, to talk to other people, to relate to others! This is the meaning of the site- correct?

However, it seems that there are many individuals that are in areas (chat as one example) that don't care to be there-that are busy doing other things-that jump from room to room and never even say HI. Does anyone realize how much that hurts someone!? Though I believe it is never intentional-it hurts.

I go in and out of my everyday life without anyones notice or concern and try to come here to try and feel normal and be human and whatnot- though it doesn't happen.

I guess life sends a sign-never meant to be so just deal with it

Thank you for letting me VENT

[AAAAA]

(((((mtaylor))))) I'm so sorry that this bothers you. I'm one of those people that can't seem to get in the right chat room on the first try so I'll blink in one room and change to another. Sometimes I don't mean to go into chat at all and hit the wrong button and find myself there. There are times when I go into chat with every intention of socializing, but as soon as I get in and say hi, the phone will ring or one of my kids comes in with a question on their homework. If I've offended you I appologize.

[nowheretorun]

take care M ... its a bit calmer here in the forums at times... vent away..

considering others is important imho...

[(JD)]

I'm glad you shared that with us. Were you sitting in the "lobby?" This is a newly formed room for members to enter the chat landscape and move on to another room. (Though some still sit and chat there, like it was with the former main chat room. Nothing wrong with that.)

Tonight there was a directed chat in the auditorium, and I suppose there might have been late comers eager to get to the chat, and they breezed right on through.



Why not join us next week?

[I_WMD]

M t ,,, I have to agree with you as to those that park themselves in a chat room and not use away status when they in p m or actually reading and posting in forums ,,, or are having chats in other venues ,,

.I agree ,,, sux when you basically talking to walls . And I type that before I log out , Some folks feel the need to be seen and multi task .

>>>I say multi task in skype or ya hoo ,,,, not at a mental health support place . .

I try to always say I brb and set away status ,,, and I even say why I brb , >> maybe that is just I .

T/C M t ,,, Not always like that .

[sujunew]

I don't often go to chat now, but there are times when I have gone and either no-one has said anything to me at all, or I have tried to chat and no-one has 'been there'...It is frustrating, and even embarrassing (I feel like I shouldn't be there, that maybe they are all PMing and I am interrupting). Like I said, I don't often go to chat now; this is 'in the past'. Hopefully ppl learn to use the 'away' button if they become busy so that it is clear whether or not their attention is with chat or elsewhere...
FYI- to see if someone is 'away' their name will be in italics...

[Raynaadi]

((((( mtaylor and anyone who's felt ignored in chat ))))))

I wish there was some way we could fix this. I know I don't chat nearly as much as I used to. One thing I do when I feel like chatting is I look to see who's there. If there's someone I "know" in there, I'm more likely to go in. Maybe it would help to talk with some of the others who are feeling frustrated with chat and try to set up some times where ya'll can go into together, so no one feels ignore? You could even create a private room with or without a password.I know its frustrating when people pop in and out. It even happened in the directed chat a little bit last night.

Like Sky said, the Lobby is just like how it sounds. Its the room most people enter into to go into another room, or create a private room.

I guess I'll just say keep trying? And maybe try that idea of getting your friends together to go into chat? If anyone has any suggestions, please feel free to shoot me a pm.

to all.
Rayna

Another idea is to private message someone in the room to ask if they are still there if they have not been talking much or at all. If they have their sound up, it should make a little noise when you do so that might catch their attention.

Sometimes when I am chatting I am also doing something else, but I am almost always back within two or three minutes, except for a couple of times I spaced out and forgot I was in chat altogether

[AAAAA]

I usually say hi to everyone entering the room when I'm in there. If I haven't, it's because the room is zipping by so fast and I did not see you come in.

There's a fine line here I think. I don't like to pry, and while I'm more than happy to chat with anyone about just about anything, I don't want to force anyone to chat. I know when I first started going into chat I liked to hang back and get the feel of the room. I know that there is an arguement out there that if someone enters a chat room, that they should chat, but I know some members like to come in just for the company.

Hands up hands up ! I am one of the ones who just like company somtimes, if I am feeling unwell I like to 'read' the room I say hi to everyone and point out I am unwell and will be quiet and say hi to anyone else who joins the room but I dont explain myself to any one who has joined I only say it the once its nice to have company when you are feeling scared or lonely and reading the room is a nice sense of not being alone.

[SeptemberMorn]

mtaylor, I was there last night. Several of us were going to say Hi to you but you left before, at least, *I* could hit Enter. Someone asked what was wrong with you. You didn't go unnoticed. Maybe if you're a little more patient next time, it will go better.

Don't take things so personally, ok?