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Oct 29, 2004 at 11:01 AM
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I wasn't able to tell my T about the scar tissue situation or about my nightmares. I couldn't even bring myself to tell her that there was something I couldn't bring myself to tell her. Feeling like such a wimp at the moment.
In an effort to see some positive, I DID tell her that I am feeling needy and dependent when it comes to her. It was hard (not nearly as hard as the other stuff, though), but it turned out okay. |
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Oct 29, 2004 at 11:06 AM
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(((((((((((girllazy)))))))))))))
I wasn't in chat obviously, but I just wanted to lend you some more support, my friend. Give it time, and keep trying to be open. It will happen when you're ready if you make it your goal to get everything out there and dealt with evenutally. Angela __________________  Soon I'll grow up and I won't even flinch at your name ~Alanis Morissette |
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Oct 29, 2004 at 11:12 AM
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Hi Girllazy,
Don't feel bad. It is not easy to get out all the things you have planned with your T. If you even get 1 item talked about, you are doing REAL good. If you go with the intention to talk about those items, Sooner or later, they will be discussed because they will just come to the top when you least expect it. Remember, when the "time is right", it will happen. Debbie __________________  Leo's favorite place was in the passenger seat of my truck. We went everywhere together like this. Leo my soulmate will live in my heart FOREVER Nov 1, 2002 - Dec 16, 2018 |
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Oct 29, 2004 at 11:43 AM
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P.S. One thing that has helped me was to write about the stuff before I went to therapy. I have my T's email address, so I send it to her ahead of time and let her bring it up. I have heard of other people writing letters and mailing them. Even if you don't do that, if you have it written down and bring it with you, it might help you to tell her. You can have her read what you wrote instead, and then talk about it later. Or you can give it to her at the end of a session, and write on it asking her to bring it up in the next session maybe.
Just some ideas on making it easier to share things. ((((((((girllazy))))))))) Angela __________________ Soon I'll grow up and I won't even flinch at your name ~Alanis Morissette |
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Oct 29, 2004 at 12:06 PM
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It's hard, isn't it? That's ok. When you are ready, you will (writing it makes it much easier - that is the only thing that worked for me), and once it is out there, you will start to feel better.
__________________ “We should always pray for help, but we should always listen for inspiration and impression to proceed in ways different from those we may have thought of.” – John H. Groberg 
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Oct 29, 2004 at 12:17 PM
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Girllazy,
While I was not in chat I just wanted to tell you to not be so hard on yourself. Releaving information to our T's can be difficult...I am sure that you will find the right time to tell your T about your scar tissue and nightmares when you feel ready. Then it will be the best time. Just try to take care of yourself for now. Stay strong, Jessica __________________ "Though she knows well he doesn't listen. There's still a hope in her he might." |
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Oct 29, 2004 at 01:13 PM
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I don't feel any obligation to tell my T anything until I am ready. The relationship requires building trust. Take your time.
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Oct 29, 2004 at 02:23 PM
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Don't push it. It will come out when you're ready. Just don't try to do it on your own, ok?
Hang in there. {{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{Girl}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}} __________________ Psalm 119:105 Thy word is a lamp unto my feet, and a light unto my path. |
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Oct 29, 2004 at 04:40 PM
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Hi, I was in chat with you, but we didn't talk about that at all. I'm just writing to let you know I read the post, and that I think you shouldn't feel pressurized into telling your T anything. Someday, you will be ready to tell her. You will feel so much better if you wait until then, rather than tell her early about it.
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Oct 29, 2004 at 06:00 PM
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ditto here girl, You will speak of it in your own time in your own way and with your own words to grow to understand what is pressuring you so. You will be okay and someday you will feel safe to tell t and explore it together. Good luck.
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Oct 29, 2004 at 06:08 PM
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((((((((((everyone))))))))))
Thank you so much for all the support. I appreciate it more than you know. It seems from what you all say that I should be patient with me. Then why am I so inclined to *should* all over myself about it? I just don't understand. |
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Oct 29, 2004 at 06:16 PM
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should needs to be banished from any and all languages. You are fine, be kind and patient with yourself
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Oct 29, 2004 at 06:51 PM
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Girllazy, while I WAS in chat, I think there were more than one conversation going on... or I was laying back because all the others were talking with you... I remember you chatting about this though.
It's ok. At least now you have some of the thoughts framed in your mind for when you are able to discuss it. Maybe it's not time yet? What you did say is important, and I'm glad it went ok. __________________ |
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Nov 07, 2004 at 04:54 AM
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I think you did just fine .... and I am sorry this is so late.
Therapists are supposed to accept you.... whatever you bring to them. I hope yours turns out to be like that .......... Take care, Fuzzy __________________ 
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