Important: Husband accessed my account

Yes, true...he found all sorts of VERY personal information about me here on PC and sent copies of these very personal posts to his lawyer. The man is insane. I have much to say about him in Relationships. Anyway, isn't there some sort of confidentiality I can get for posting on sites like this....meaning in law terms? Can he actually take them to court and use them against me? This seems wrong to me since I posted them in strict confidentiality.

I'm sorry this occurred. That is why there is a Poohbah forum, where only such members access it. (Still if spouse were a member he/she could also be there.)

There is no expectation for privacy here I think, except for the anonymity the screen name allows for. If what you said in the forums is true, and especially if you shared how YOU are feeling, then there really shouldn't be much of a problem. Yes, it's uncomfortable to have someone do that. I'm sorry he found out who you are here. Maybe admin has a partial solution for you now. (I guess he would have to prove that what he found was actually written by you, and not just an assumption? I often copy/save/print out other member's posts here for further review and thought... maybe that's all you did with someone????

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This is a public forum youOme and it offers no more protection against your voice than conversation.

Your greatest protection is protecting your identity and covering your tracks on access...

You can PM me anytime and I will offer some advice on both methods...

Legally speaking,,,there is nothing here you have written that is assured to be your words and your identity either. Literally tens of thousands of people use this forum and there are many similarities of stories, circumstances and conditions...

His attorney would have a difficult time admitting anything written here in court...

Lenny

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There is?

Hey ((((((((((Desirae))))))))))))

Unfortunately, I do not believe there is any rules regulating the usage of whats written here in an outside context, just rules against usage in other online formats. (Just as far as I'm aware, I may be mistaken). It is a public forum, and generally anyone who wishes to read (most) posts here can do so, even without an account. You're just required to have account for additional features, and to be able to respond to posts here.

You essentially "own" what you write here (look at the Community Guidelines for more information) ... but I'm not sure what legally you can do. What purpose is your husband using your posts here for? Divorce proceedings or something else like that?

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I don't know about the law but if you are still worried about this it might be a good idea to ask admin if you can change your name so that you can't be identified again.

It is controversial what the poohbah forum is for (that is partly why I got rid of my old account - I'd much prefer to bypass the whole 'i've posted more than you have' situation)...

I think there is a speel when we sign up that warns us about how anonymity is limited on the internet and on how there are steps we can take to assist our retaining our anonymity (such as our refraining from posting identifying information about where we live, our name etc etc etc).

there have been cases where posts to message boards have been used as evidence in a court of law (for custody battles in particular). they can be used, yes. i guess the judge could ask you if you posted those posts. i'm not sure if you can plead the fifth at that point... getting your account deleted might help (but not if the judge asks you about those particular posts). it would make it harder for people to search your posting name and collate posts for court...

i'm sorry this has happened to you....

(you might want to be careful about digging yourself in still further now)

Hasnt he done this before or was that somone else ? I would make sure I had changed my name and not post things so personal now.

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Yes, true...he found all sorts of VERY personal information about me here on PC..... This seems wrong to me since I posted them in strict confidentiality.

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I'm really sorry this happened to you, but be aware-- once you post something on a public site, your "VERY personal information" becomes not so personal anymore. There are no confidentiality obligations on a public board. Perhaps you can change your user name, or limit your posting to certain subjects, so that he doesn't find out any more stuff.

I am not a lawyer:

Gotta agree with Lenny. There's no way this stuff can be admissible. Even someone with very basic html knowledge could forge anything he liked and make plausible printouts. There's no doubt that him knowing this stuff is worrisome, and for that I'm sorry, but in terms of legal danger, I don't think you have anything to worry about.

I don’t know it it’s admissible in court, stranger things have happened. I know a bunch of kids got into a lot of trouble after the prom at a party. Even though there was no alcohol visible, and all the cups were those solo red ones, the ppl in the pictures were punished for consuming alcohol based upon pictures posted on myspace. It was stated that they were “visibly intoxicated”. Athletes were expelled from their sports, one girl lost her membership in the national honor society. Her father is a lawyer attempted to fight the suspension etc and lost. (Michigan has a zero tolerance policy). FYI there were no captions for the pics just the pictures themselves.

I guess that’s the risk you take when you post things on the web, once it’s out there, it’s there forever.

I am not a lawyer either, but I know for a fact that posts on message boards HAVE been brought before USA courts and were allowed as admissable to help establish such things as competency for custody.

Ok, so the could be admissible, but I think we should make a distinction between "admissible" and "useful". I gotta think any lawyer could make a convincing argument if you want to plead that they weren't yours or were manufactured. Probably want to mention it to your lawyer and see if she can petition the judge just in case.

Please let us know what your lawyer says youoweme, I'm very curious to know how much they deem admissable.