[Junerain]

I had brunch this morning with my father and his new girlfriend. His last relationship was with his late wife, I will refer to her as Cassie. Although I felt for my Dad when Cassie passed away, there was an element of relief on my part. Cassie was brutal to me in subvertive, verbally abusive ways. My father would stick up for from time to time, to give him credit for thos particular times. Cassie would demand details about my life in such a harsh, brutal, demanding way, I would just shake as I tried to recall them amidst the shaking. Where EXACTLY did you walk through the woods!! Where!! HOW MANY sweet and low's did you put in your iced tea HOW MANY EXACTLY!! Mind you I am not was not ever a detail person just liked my iced tea very, very sweet like I am naturally

My sweetness had digressed in her presence. She said my beloved family I babysat for was just using me She said I would never be a nurse She said substitute teachers do not have to deal with things. I dealt with plenty!!!

The highlight was when I was being kind to a waitress and she screamed at me for it. I was a waitress once too.

Well she passed away...slowly..my mind actually improved with this passing.

Fast forward to to-day. Brunch with my father's new girlfriend..I felt UNDERSTOOD by her, I will call her Charlotte. Charlotte listened to me, encouraged me, laughed with me, just talked to_ me not at_ me

She is a Christian and encouraged my (atheist) father to attend church with her....miracles never cease!!!

Met her daughter too and I enjoy her also, she is also in the medical field.

I see a future with even better being able to talk to my father, with Charlotte in the room, communication with my long lost father was much more in tact and even palpable..

Here's to a wonderful day....and many more to come

[jbug]

That is great June!!!

I am always encouraged to hear about other peoples good days!

Jan

[multipixie9]

dear junerain,

i am so happy for you, just sad that someone's death has to be considered a plus. some people are truly toxic and sounds like this woman was like that. i know how happy you felt to get to be around your dad without fears and restraints. i hope there are many more great events and fun times ahead. i am also glad you are no under the harsh scrutiny of that other person. i've always been sad that my mom, though i think we both loved each other, was the single most destructive abuser of all that i had. i miss having a mom, but i do not miss my own mom, that is sad. (sorry didn't mean to bring down posting into your happy and great post! )

leslie and her pixies

[(JD)]

Sounds like a great day, indeed! I wish you well in the future too... but nevertheless, you've had this day no one can take away. TC