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Feb 14, 2005 at 04:41 AM
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There once was a little girl who had a bad temper. Her mother gave her a bag of nails and told her that every time she lost her temper, she must hammer a nail into the back of the fence.
The first day the girl had driven 37 nails into the fence. Over the next few weeks, as she learned to control her anger, the number of nails hammered daily gradually dwindled down. She discovered it was easier to hold her temper than to drive those nails into the fence. Finally the day came when the girl didn't lose her temper at all. She told her mother about it and the mother suggested that the girl now pull out one nail for each day that she was able to hold her temper. The day passed and the young girl was finally able to tell her mother that all the nails were gone. The mother took her daughter by the hand and led her to the fence. She said, "You have done well, my daughter, but look at the holes in the fence. The fence will never be the same. When you say things in anger, they leave a scar just like this one. You can put a knife in a person and draw it out. It won't matter how many times you say I'm sorry, the wound is still there. A verbal wound is as bad as a physical one. Friends are very rare jewels, indeed. They make you smile and encourage you to succeed. They lend an ear, they share words of praise and they always want to open their hearts to us." ................................ I know I have left many holes in many fences. I hope those people forgive me. I have many holes in myself too. Forgiving myself is harder to do. I just wanted to share. __________________ Sabrina Without my mask - where will I hide? |
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Feb 14, 2005 at 09:19 AM
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Wow I like this may I use it in my group?
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Feb 14, 2005 at 09:29 AM
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outstanding. an analogy i've never heard before. how wise.
thank you so much for posting that. it was good to read kd __________________ 
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Feb 14, 2005 at 10:15 AM
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Oh yes, of course! I might not be able to always "follow my own advice" but it is always heartening and comforting if someone else can benefit.
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Feb 14, 2005 at 11:01 AM
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Thank you for sharing this! I think I needed to hear it
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Feb 14, 2005 at 11:02 AM
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That was very thought-provoking. Thanks for posting it.
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Feb 14, 2005 at 11:14 AM
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Excellent...thank you! mac
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Feb 14, 2005 at 11:39 AM
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Hello Sabrina --
That is an excellent and wise story. I love it. Thank you so much for sharing it. __________________ 
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Feb 14, 2005 at 02:46 PM
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Wow, that one does make you think. ^__^
Then again I'm odd and like hitting nails, so it probably wouldn't help me, but it's still good. XD Haha __________________ “For one moment we are not failed tests and broken condoms and cheating on essays; we are crayons and lunch boxes and swinging so high our sneakers punch holes in the clouds.” --- Wintergirls |
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Feb 14, 2005 at 06:59 PM
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Great story Sabrina. Thanks for sharing it.
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Feb 14, 2005 at 07:03 PM
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Very good story!
Thank you for sharing it. Hugs! nightdream |
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Feb 15, 2005 at 12:15 PM
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THANK YOU~~~~~that is so appropriate for most of us.....we leave scars.....others scar us.......thanks again for the post. pat
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Feb 15, 2005 at 01:41 PM
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That was amazing!!
Jessica __________________ "Though she knows well he doesn't listen. There's still a hope in her he might." |
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