[Arista]

I was searching around tonight and fell upon your site.
About me, well I'm 30 have 3 kids, and a husband.....well not for much longer. I found out last month that my oldest son had been molesting my eight year old daughter. If that's not enough my husband just so sweetly let me know that after 5 years he just doesn't love me enough to stay married to me anymore. Needless to say I'm in a severe depression. I've had problems with depression a lot as a teen, and in my 20's I was doing pretty good emotionaly up to this point. Now I find myself thinking about suicide a lot. I know I need some help to get through this, but I really don't know where to look at this point. I don't have health insurance. Anyway hello all and thanks for reading spill.
peace,
Arista

[SpazKatt]

HI and welcome, no problem about the "spill" as you say I hope you find what you need here and like it! *hugs*

[Mahali]

Arista,
Sorry about the problems you are having. Maybe you can get help from local health agencies. I would encourage you to try.
Welcome to the forums. Hope you can find dome help here too.

[StargazerLily]

Hey, welcome. Hope that you find the support you need here, that's a lot to be dealing with. I'm sorry. See you around!

[eliza]

I am relatively new here myself and have found great help in the different forums offered. I trust you will seek help through the mental health system. There are places that will see you for a nominal fee. Good-luck and post again.

[jagster]

HI, i just wanted to welcome you. Nice to have you here

[nothemama8]

Welcome to the forum we have a great group of ppl here
Angie

[kimmydawn]

arista, welcome! i'm so sorry for what your family has been going thru.

you can call your local community services and find out about your Community Mental Health Center. they charge according to income. sometimes they don't charge at all. i think your entire family could benefit by talking with a trained counselor at this point.

i wish you and yours so well. let us know what you decide?

kd

[vacantangel]

Hi Arista. Welcome to PC. You sure are dealing with a lot sweetie. I can't give you any advice on where to seek help since I don't live in the US but I'm sure that your GP should be able to point you in the right direction or you have also been given some wonderful suggestions by others who have posted before me.

I agree that family councilling should be considered, for you, your son and daughter. Your daughter certainly needs help even if she is quiet and doesn't seem to be upset about the situation. My family didn't get me therapy for a trauma I suffered with when I was 9 because I 'appeared' ok and never spoke about it, but here I am today as an adult dealing with it now in therapy. I'm not suggesting that you aren't thinking of your daughter but just wanted to point this out to you. Obviously your son needs therapy too. I don't recall you mentioning the ages of either one of them. Therapy for you would also be good because you're dealing with the loss of a husband and the situation between your son and daughter. You are being pulled in so many directions and having to deal with all of this on your own. Please seek medical help for your depression and continue to post here. We'll be here for you emotionally and help you out the best that we can. Anyway, you can lean on us for support every step of the way. My heart goes out to you and your entire family. Good luck in finding the best resources that you can for your family. Let us know how things are going. I'm glad you found a soft place to land by coming here and I hope you will continue to post. (((((((Arista and family))))))))

[Poppet]

Hi Arista,

You are going through such a bad time right now, I just hope you can get some support from us here.
I have found it to be safe here, and welcome you at this difficult time.
I agree with Angelgirl that counselling would be good to do. I feel for your daughter too heres a little angel for her.

Look after yourself.........Poppet