eh probably an idiotic post but whatever

probably just me but i don't get how to do chat anymore? sometimes i'll look to see who's online and no one i know will be on chat, it'll all be people i don't know

which is still fine to enter chat, it's public and it's chat, but if you don't know anyone then i always find myself a convo killer or just sitting in the room quietly because i don't know anyone

but it feels dumb if i 'introduce' myself, and plus i don't know how

so then it make sit easier not to enter chat even if i want to chat because it'll feel awkward to be a stranger in a room full of people who know each other and are friends with each other, it's like going to a party and being the person who sits on the sofa with no one because they don't know anyone

which then makes me think i'm rude if i also enter, because when chat is full of people, they're already talking, and i feel like i'm interrupting

and there's never a point in going to a new room- because i don't know people, obviously no one would switch rooms to chat

don't know what to do?

[Catherine2]

Griffe,
If you find out, please let me know!
I'm running into the same things...

Catherine

[anna342]

I spend quite a bit of time in chat, so I hope I've not been unwelcoming like that.

But, everyone else is probably just carrying on and expecting you to join in if you want to and don't see a need to start asking questions to everyone that joins the room. Sometimes a conversation is just flowing between other peopel and you just sit back until you have something to say. Or you can always say something like, 'so what's going on here?'

Maybe just be a bit more foward and it'll come easy.

[Catherine2]

Thanks...
I'll just have to get over the feeling of not wanting to interrupt...weird since I'm not shy and never have been!

Catherine

Just jump right in ! The more the merrier....

[beadlady29-old]

((((((((((((((((((Griffe))))))))))))))))
((((((((((((((catherine))))))))))))))))

beads totaly agree with anna and tishie...................like just jump in and feel free to join converstaions anytime you wants to........

hopeing things gets easier for you both,

hugs iffen you wants em,
beadlady

[sabby]

((((((((( griffe )))))))))

can you think back to when you first started coming to PC and how you felt when you first joined the chat room and didn't know anyone? How did you manage at that time to introduce yourself or make friends?

I know it can be a bit scary to put yourself out there with people you don't know. But, nothing ventured, nothing gained

You are a nice person, supportive and caring and knowledgeable. Try going in for short periods of time and see what happens.


sabby

[sky dancer]

Most people in chat are gracious and welcoming. Sometimes people are in the middle of a conversation and may not notice you come in. Just say hi to each person in the room, you will get a hi back.

[Shangrala]

Chatting sounds like fun. I've yet to venture into that part of this site, but it does sound like fun. My issue is my typing skills....or, lack of...lols.
I have what I call "happy fingers"...They seem to dance on the keys at random (especially when it seems as though I'm racing to get a thought in)...I've seem to sometimes create an entirely new language..Funny. So long as everyone else can tolerate my "Dori" typos.all's good...(brings humor into convo at least...).

I'm so going to have to try chat.

Shangrala

[Catherine2]

Shangrala...
I will if you will...
typos? I am The Queen of Typos

[beadlady29-old]

{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{Shangrala}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}

dont't worry about that one whit.............liek beads feels like the queen of tpyos in caht but no one complaisn or get mad...long as they can read tehy dont seem to mind......
come and try..check it out!

all of us beadys

[eskielover]

Chat can be a bit overwhelming at times.....I remember the first time I ever was in chat......I sat there with all these words flying by & I just got so lost....by the time I typed in what I had to say in response to someone....it was already long gone...lol.

Then my favorite is when I get my hands on all the wrong keys & I type out all thie gibberisn......unless you shift your hands to the right, or left, or up , or down, you would never know what in the world I was typing......way stranger than any foreign language...lol

Once I got used to chat, it became easier.....never easy....just easier.

If you did it once, & got to know people.....just do it again
Debbie

I have no idea how they work out some of the things I type as I cant spell long words lmao. But they manage !

[kim_johnson]

Hey. I think that sometimes people are logged in but are distracted. Either away from their computer or doing other things on their computer so not really paying attention to the chat screen. I've certainly found myself in a room (on numerous occasions) where everyone is basically non-responsive. I think sometimes people just enter to get the login, too, and they are basically having a private PM conversation with someone. I understand that it is hard to know what to make of a situation like that. I took it personally to start with then realized that most people didn't even seem to know I had entered the room and I hadn't killed the conversation in the room the room was basically dead already.

Often when people enter the room they say 'hey' or something like that. To let people know you are there and to see (by how many responses you get) how active things are. That is one way of introducing yourself, I guess.

I also hear you about people having a conversation and... Not really knowing how to make your way into the conversation. I guess different people are in chat for very different reasons. Some use it to catch up with people, some use it because they want to give advice, some use it because they are freaking out and want support etc etc. Can be hard to know what it up... Often I've just... Left... Because I don't want to be part of the social dynamic or... Something. But then I've also had many mutually beneficial conversations, too. I do try and be open to discovering that with people who I don't already know... But tis hard because I've also been fairly burned (there are some people who basically use chat to get help for themselves and don't really reciprocate. I try and avoid that because personally I get more out of mutual friendships than one way interactions). Some people do come in and go 'mememememe' I do understand that that is simply where a person is at sometimes... But by the same token I need to look out for me (and they are surely not).

It is confusing... I'm not sure what to say... I guess this is why I don't chat here much. I find... Something along the lines of... The same thing...

[Soidhonia]

It is hard chatting with new people, when you are used to the old members. Perhaps if you PM someone on your friends list they can come and chat with you so you dont feel so alone. I have done that on numerous occasions since I know so few people in chat anymore. Take care. Griffe. PM anytime. Soidhonia

[Shangrala]

Okay! I'm willing so long as everyone is ready for me...LOL....jk....sorta.

I've discovered that if anyone can keep up with the kids and their convos......then you definately have chatting down to a mastered skill....LOL. I have tried with my daughter's convos...omg...lol....
She sends me a party chat invite....and I'm like...okayyyyyyy...I'll try anything.
Once in there....HOLY!
I can only laugh at myself cuz..by the time I get my response in, its soooooooooo out of context that all the kid's are like....HUH?
Brings laughter for them all...they get a genuine kick out of the fact that they KNOW that they really ARE better at something than an adult is. It's nice to provide them that acknowledgement....lols.

Now, all I need to do is figure out how to get into this chat with y'all....lol.

I am definately going to give it a shot though. (Catherine...that includes you, too...lol).

Shangrala

thanks for the advice everyone.

i always feel nervous wanting to pm someone on my friends list to chat although i've certainly wanted to before, but i don't like coming off as a bother or as demanding. i remember being really freaked the first time i went into chat for sure, it's like that all over again.

i'll muster up some proper courage, thanks everyone

[nightbird]

(((griffe))))

no spelling allowed!!! rofl

that's my own personal rule, and you can use it anytime!

Peace and Chatter Friend,
Night
xoxoxoxo

[Shangrala]

Yay! I dove in and must say......it really is fun. I seem to fit right in...lol.

I didn't know anyone..Yet everyone's so warm n welcoming....I so love this site....Unlike any other I've ever been a part of!!

Now, I've found a new place to spend some quality time..yay.
Thanks peeps...for sharing the fun.

Shangrala

[Michah]

Chat terrifies me!!! I cannot type fast enough and spend most my time saying "what was that?" "what are we talking about?" "what was that about a badger?" (ha ha )

Anyway, not too worried......will get the hang of it one day.......

[Shangrala]

I must admit....LOTS fly past me...When that happens....I just toss in my comment.."Ok. Now I'm lost"....lol. I understand too, that some that is said has much to do with convo already in progress, and realize that it's ok NOT to follow it all.

Thing too is, I have what I call my "Dori" moments...(random forgetfulness accompanied with flightiness...is there a medical name for that?)....Not the best traits to have while attending a social chat room....lols..

Still...it's loads of fun. I do enjoy it.

Shangrala

It was great meeting you !

Michah you just jump in honestly we are gentle lmao......

[ehcysp]

i'm also new here.. i dont even know where to go to post a topic..

[beadlady29-old]

beads

[Blue93]

(((((((Vince)))))) Yeah just try to come often... the sooner you will get to know more people and the sooner it will feel comfortable enough to jump in on the convo.
I am also often quiet but that should be okay, if people wonder why they can always ask. It's up to you/us when we want to join in on the convo!

---> If people feel unsure where to post, just browse trough the list of different forums, if nothing fits, general or social chat is often appropiate. If a mod thinks it best fits somewhere else, they will just move it!

Just jump in and you will find your way around soon enough...

Blue