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May 13, 2010 at 11:53 PM
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this phrase really makes me mad because I view pets and kids as nice things instead of leather sofas and flatscreen TV's.
okay, so the title is kind of unrelated to what I wanted to post about... Sometime my mom kind of makes me mad when I tell her that's I'd like to come to her house more often and she says "well if you didn't have a dog you could but now that you have a responsibility over pumpkin you can't do as much as you want to do anymore" I know what she's saying and she is partially right but the thing that makes me mad is she was against me getting a dog in the first place because it limits me (I can't stay at her place because her apartment doesn't allow dogs, if I want to go to college most if not all dorms do not allow pets, and of course I need to spend money taking care of her). But... instead of focusing on what I can't do, I focus on what I can do now that she is with me. One reason why I even wanted a dog was because I needed to go outside but was too paranoid about other people judging me that I didn't want to go out by myself. So, having a dog is nice because now I'll always have a companion if I wanted to go somewhere, sure, I can't go inside places because most places don't want your dogs inside but the point is that I can at least walk around town to those places to begin with without experiencing that paralyzing dread. Being with her I interact with people, though most of the time the conversation is about her, or how nice the weather is  She does have her problems- she still has accidents once in awhile, she thinks it's okay to play rough and bite as a way of saying she doesn't want something or wants to play (not hard enough to break any skin), she is like a little baby that just wants to get into everything, and she has really bad manners, but thankfully it's nothing that training won't fix. I really do want to train her but I've also realized for me that I have to actually have someone there telling me and showing me these things instead of just reading about it or watching TV. (she is a little over 8 months old by the way, and we adopted her at six weeks old) being able to successfully train her would be even better for the both of us! I keep saying "she's a good dog but once she's trained she'll be perfect" and eliminating the stressful parts like when she is behaving badly, or even just making them happen once in awhile instead of all of the time... she'd be that much more of a positive influence. Even while she's being trained... it builds confidence which I am in desperate need of and I also need actual interaction with people (according to my T at least, as well as my previous one who tell me that my isolation = very bad and exacerbates every other issue I have) which... I would certainly get more of. I guess back to the thread title: yes, having a pet does limit me like my mom says. It's an inarguable fact. But, I think all the good things that she does and can do outweigh that. By a lot. So I'm always looking at this particular glass as half full so it's frustrating when people point out the negative. |
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