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Nov 09, 2022 at 04:54 PM
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We have a 19 year old cat, Bo. He has kidney disease, a tumor the size of a ping pong ball on his jaw, and some teeth he needs taken out (he can't eat dry food anymore because they're so bad). He's been meowing a lot more than usual lately, stopped grooming himself (since I've been in the hospital he hasn't been groomed by anyone and is matted to high hell and we can't keep up with it anymore), and has been hitting his sister frequently/in a grumpy mood all the time. He can jump up on the railing to alert us he wants to come inside, but he can't jump down from that height on his own.
I think he's in pain. I think it's his time. My mom (whose name is on the vet papers and therefore is in charge) thinks he should go naturally. I think it's cruel and time for euthanasia. Thoughts? __________________ If any chord that I could strum Make me feel less like a man I'd slam my fingers in the doorway And shatter all the bones So I could never strum again |
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Nov 09, 2022 at 05:11 PM
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I agree with you. I think if he’s in pain and has all those issues it’s kinder to help him. .
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Nov 09, 2022 at 05:29 PM
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I believe when their quality of life goes down and/or they are in constant pain we own it to them to end their suffering. Have you asked your vet what they think? S/he might be able to talk to your mom about being kind to Bo instead of making him suffer.
This I'd going to sound odd, but have you asked Bo if he is ready to go? I truly believe they tell us when it is time. |
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Nov 10, 2022 at 08:13 AM
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I am sorry you are dealing with this. My husband and I recently had to make the same decision for our 14-year-old dog last month. It's never easy. Our decision was based on her quality of life and our vet agreed. Like Bo, she had several health conditions and they were getting worse. It sounds like it is probably Bo's time. Lizardlady had a good suggestion about seeing if the vet can talk to your mother.
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Nov 10, 2022 at 10:47 AM
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I agree about talking to the vet. A vet told me it was time for one of my cats to pass on. I kept trying to hang on to her. It's sad but.....It's also sad to see them suffer when their quality of life is terrible.
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Nov 12, 2022 at 03:41 PM
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He has his yearly vet appointment coming up so we'll definitely discuss it then.
It just sucks. When I lived with my grandma I was the only one there when our cat died. A couple years ago I was the one that had to put Moose down, and then recently Bean goes missing while I'm in the hospital and can't do **** about it, and I bet my mom's going to make me be the one there to put Bo down. __________________ If any chord that I could strum Make me feel less like a man I'd slam my fingers in the doorway And shatter all the bones So I could never strum again |
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Nov 12, 2022 at 03:59 PM
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I'm sorry MuddyBoots, it does sound like it's his time to go
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Nov 12, 2022 at 05:36 PM
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MuddyBoots, I bet lots of people here would be willing to be pocket riders when the time comes.
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Nov 15, 2022 at 03:02 PM
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His vet appointment is in an hour; I'm anxious as all hell. I'll let you know how it goes.
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Nov 15, 2022 at 07:49 PM
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It actually went pretty well. She said the tumor is growing in a direction that isn't causing too much harm (he should eat his food higher off the ground because it could be hard for him to swallow). She shaved him (or what she could), and said it's okay to just feed him lots of wet food. She said when he really starts showing signs of pain from the cancer she can give him gabapentin to sprinkle in his food (but if he's not eating obviously it's time to put him down).
I'm glad to know my 19 year old cat isn't in as bad a shape as I thought he was. __________________ If any chord that I could strum Make me feel less like a man I'd slam my fingers in the doorway And shatter all the bones So I could never strum again |
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Nov 15, 2022 at 08:03 PM
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Sounds like a really kind vet. How nice of her. I’m glad he’s doing ok.
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Nov 16, 2022 at 08:54 AM
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Oh MuddyBoots! That's great to hear. Agree with Nammu, she sounds like a good vet.
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Nov 16, 2022 at 03:45 PM
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I'm glad he's doing okay, muddyboots
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Nov 18, 2022 at 12:54 PM
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Just my opinion, but you are the last thing on this earth your pet should see. You are the only thing on this earth your pet wants to see before crossing that rainbow bridge.
Do not deny them that comfort to avoid your own pain, because that will transform the transient pain you feel now into a much deeper ache of regret later on. Hold them, whisper to them, comfort them, and hold them as they pass so both of you can continue on until you see each other again. |
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I don't know what the last thing my Ebony saw, she had gone blind before she was at the vets for the last time, she couldnt hear all that well either i was the last thing she smelled though, i made sure of that 
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Nov 18, 2022 at 08:43 PM
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Michael, I agree 100%. I believe I owe it to them to send them across the bridge with my love and thanks for being in my life. I read a heart breaking article by a vet who talked about animals becoming confused and upset when their owner leaves them at the vet to be put down. Given how many critters hate going to the vet, can you imagine their last few minutes feeling they've been abandoned there by their people?
Willow, I believe with all my heart that even if they can't see, hear or smell us they still know we are there with them. |
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Nov 19, 2022 at 09:16 AM
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