Hi all,

I hope this is the right place to do this... anyways, I have a problem with emotional eating, mostly desserts, right now my drug of choice is icecream.

I guess I am fortunate in that I'm not so far gone as to continue eating when I start feeling sick. I have done that in the past, and it's misery. So, ever since then I've been able to stop at least at the point of feeling sick.

I am generally a healthy eater in other aspects. All except with sweets. I am a pescatarian, but I eat mostly vegetables, and I eat small portions...

I thought I had begun to have it under control, I made a pact with myself to eat healthy at the beginning of this week, and I hadn't eaten a whole pint of icecream in a while, and a quart in probably two months...

Tonight I ate a whole pint of icecream. After eating three cookies, a full dinner, and earlier a large brownie, and a lot of cheese.

It was done without thinking. I just saw the icecream, it was there, and I ate it. I don't think I even wanted it past the first spoonful.

I tried explaining to my mother my problem. I live with her, and she loves having icecream around all the time, so it is always available to me, and I asked her to stop buying it, and only buy it in cones outside of the house.

I spend a lot of time at home, as I've been unemployed until recently, so there's more difficulty. I have asked her twice now to do this for me.

But my mom refuses to help me. She says it is on me to exercise my will and to not eat the icecream she keeps in the fridge. I worry about offending her, making her think I disapprove of her eating it. But I'm like an addict, when it's on hand, I don't think, I just consume.

I know however that I am not an addict. I just have a thinking problem. I have a willpower problem. But does that mean that my mother should not help me at all?

I have considered moving to my dad's place until I can move out, simply because of this problem. I'm not sure it would be fair to him, but I have had this problem for 2 years now, and therapy or no, it's very hard to change.

What should I do?

[kaliope]

youre not alone in your ice cream habit...I buy it buy the carton and eat it in three days. I cant seem to go without it. while I think mom should consider not buying it to support you, I think it unfair to ask her to go without it. it is her home. so moving to dads would be an answer though I don't understand why moving to his house would be unfair to him while living in your mothers home isn't. take care.

[DoNotWantThis]

You need to do what you feel is best for you - you are trying to feel better, and small steps are an important part of that. Having your "trigger food" around all the time is definitely jumping to one of the last steps. Not buying these foods in a store, or using them as a reward comes as the early ones, having to stare at - in your case - ice cream every single day... it's not something you should have to do. If your mother won't listen to you, and you think that you would feel better at your father's, then I hope he would just be honored that you turned to him for help!

[Standup2me]

Start loving yourself more,... I know easier said than done right?

I don't want to sound mean, but your Mum sounds like she is being hurtful and disrespectful

Go to Dad's with an open heart