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Default May 09, 2021 at 03:19 PM
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I don't feel it's useful to keep trying to re-animate this forum when there is so little traffic so i'm abandoning it.
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I'm sorry your efforts on behalf of this forum failed to produce the results you'd hoped for. But thank you for trying. I'm afraid the "traffic" on most of the forums is substantially below what it was prior to the sale of Psych Central to Healthline. (You probably didn't need me to tell you that.) With the exception of The Coffeehouse, Games, and other "mega-threads", it seems like the only forums that are really holding their own appear to be the Relationships & Communications forum, the Divorce & Separation forum, (and perhaps the Psychotherapy forum?) Perhaps Depression and Bipolar should be included as well. At least that's the way it appears to me. I know I spend a lot less time here on MSF than I used to.

I read, in someone's reply to a post regarding MSF's citation on Google Search, where the member observed it takes a year for a new cite to work it's way toward the top of the listings on Google Search and thus become readily visible to people who are searching for what that particular site has to offer. (Apparently, at present, MSF is showing up on page 2 or 3 at least in some cases.) I don't know if that's accurate or not. But I guess all we can hope for is that, over time, My Support Forums will regain something of the following that was lost as a result of the changeover. Best wishes...

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Default May 11, 2021 at 01:11 AM
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@Skeezyks and all:

Thanks for you elucidative reply. Yes, it's unfortunate that we don't have the traffic we used to. There's no saying we'll regain it either. It could go the other way. I just Googled "mental health support forums" and we're on page six!!!



The regulars on the bipolar forum are there, tho we have lost several, not due to the hand-off tho, for other reasons.

I think the point is that we'll have trouble attracting new members, at least for a while, a year, perhaps, as you say. It's mostly the regulars that matter to me tho so as long as they stick around i can wait it out.

I'm really enjoying the site, tho the failure to reignite the overeating/binge-eating forum was a disappointment, of course. I had such passion for the project but i'll have to find another milieu.

I have a request for a referral to a specialist in with my doctor so hopefully i can get myself some help that way. The only problem is that the specialist has to be covered by our public health plan (Canada) as i don't have a private plan and that may be a BIG obstacle as there are few specialists of that sort.

Thanks for your support, Skeezyks, i'm always happy to see you around!

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I’d be happy to discuss this subject. I hadn’t considered myself having an issue with food to the point where I’d call it something that needs to be addressed. I do have bad eating habits though; eating unhealthy foods, eating more than I should, binge eating due to effects from meds.

I also had an eating issue as a child (I didn’t eat), and we never figured out why. Eventually I started to eat in my teens and became a normal eater thereafter.

If you’d like to discuss anything with me, @whatever2013, I’m here.

Tbh, since the new forum is relatively unknown, I feel relieved because I blabbed so much about myself on here.

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I don't have an eating disorder myself. But I do have an eating "concern" I guess I'll call it. I'm an older man (well sort-of... it's complicated.) But I don't have the big gut many older men develop & I never will. (My father had it.) Consequently I don't eat a lot. I'd starve myself to death before I'd allow that to happen. It's also one of the reasons I staunchly refuse to take antidepressants; because all of them it seems cause weight gain to one degree or another. And if I started to gain weight that, in-&-of itself, would make me seriously depressed.
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@TishaBuv:

Thanks for your support! Excess weight can come from many causes. I'm pretty sure mine is Binge Eating Disorder (BED), but it might just be the meds. I'm waiting for a professional opinion from a specialist.

I'm pretty overwhelmed with my benzo taper at the moment tho. My sleep is chaos. Plus my dog has needed extra attention due to some minor surgery during her routine dental cleaning so i'm just doing the best i can with my eating for the moment.

Thanks for offering to discuss the excess weight issue with me, i may take you up on that!

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Yes, Skeezyks, i feel your pain. It's hard to know whether the meds are worth the weight-gain. I'm sure unhappy in my 5'3" 250-pound body and it's hard to know what i am more depressed about: my original emotional pain or that i am an unpretty Large Marge now.

I'm tapering off my benzo at great personal cost to me in terms of insomnia and then i will discuss with my doctor whether i could get off the rest of my two more meds and just use them on an emergency basis like one member who is at a healthy weight does.

I'm trying to get on the bandwagon with the Health At Every Size movement (HAES) and try not to care so much about being fat, but it impact the quality of my life in that i can't be more active with my dog, attend outdoor concerts where i would have to stand, have to pace myself thru housework, can't dress the lower half of my body without stress and shortness-of-breath, etc.

So it's hard to see that Seroquel and Risperdal year-round are worth it when i've only been psychotic on a very infrequent basis, like once every three years and i can usually manage the episodes on my own and/or with the help of my medical doctor.

What do you think, Skeezyks?
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Yes, it’s benzos that make me binge. It happens when they are wearing off. I get hungry and bad cravings and give in. I don’t ever get this when I am not on the med, and I only take a benzo on occasion if I really need it, so I am sure the cravings are from the med.

I do have the ability to tell myself ‘no’ and not eat the thing I want. That does work some of the time. Other times, I feel I’ll do it because it’ll be alright, or it’ll make me feel good in that moment, or I am so down I just don’t care, etc…. I think that negative self talk is the underlying issue with the eating issues essentially. Do you agree?

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@whatever2013 I'm afraid I don't know enough about Psych med's in general to offer anything of any consequence with regard to this. The one thing I think I can say, based on my own experience, is that going on or off psych med's can be a challenging time because it's difficult to know what's causing what when out-of-the-ordinary feelings or experiences arise (if that makes any sense.) It just can be a confusing time. So, at least from my perspective, the less one does it and the more gradually one does it the better.

I've been on a bunch of different psych med's individually or in combination on-&-off over the years including a number of different antidepressants. But I never stayed on most of them long enough to really gain much of any perspective on them. The one antidepressant I was on for a longer period of time (over a year... memory fails me as to how long exactly) was Cymbalta / Duloxetine (first the name brand followed by the generic when it became available.) It was actually the best antidepressant (for me) I ever tried. And I only went off when I changed health insurers & the out-of-pocket cost even for the generic skyrocketed.

After that I was off all psych med's for several years. But about a year ago I went back on Clonazepam (I had taken it previously for a period of time) in part because it helps with the tinnitus I have, plus it helps with my anxiety & anger issues. (I'm only on 1.5 mg. per day though because, in older adults, there is a risk of falls as a result of taking Clonazepam.) I also currently take 25 mg. of Trazadone per night for sleep which has been a problem for me in the past. These two med's seem to be working adequately for me at the moment. And they have no impact on my weight.

@TishaBuv Yes, I would certainly agree that negative self talk could be at the heart of many eating issues. In a strange way, I think negative (or perhaps in my case conflicted) self talk is sort-of at the heart of my obsession with thinness. (I'd likely be even thinner than I am except that my spouse sees to it that doesn't happen.) But the thing is... I've waged a life-long struggle with my gender identity. And somehow, along the way, I convinced myself that the thinner I kept myself the less masculine I appeared (not that I really look all that masculine anyway.) But, as a result of the gender-identity conflict that still rages in my mind, even at my now advanced age, it's imperative to me that I not do anything that would cause me to gain weight and not even really be all that satisfied with the weight I'm currently at. It's kind-of a bizarre circumstance. But it's mine.
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I actually do need support in this forum. I tried not to, but had a little food binge today while on a med to help with being triggered. That whole way is not working for me and I feel awful.

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@Skeezyks:

Thanks for another thoughtful reply! Glad your med combo is working for you. Yes, separating med-caused symptoms from other-caused symptoms is a challenge. I'm meeting with my doctor of Monday over the phone to try and tease out some of the subtleties. Sorry you struggle with gender-identity issues. Yes, being thin is androgynous. I had anorexia for a year when i was fourteen and i had no breasts or menstruation. Glad your wife keeps you from wasting away. Yay wives!

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Sorry you had that binge and feel bad. I've been in that boat nth times these last 25 years. One thing i heard that helped was: one bad meal does not ruin a whole day of healthy eating and one bad day does not ruin a whole weak of healthy eating. We all eff-up from time-to-time. Have you tried the National Eating Disorders Association (NEDA) supports? They offer phone, chat and text support. The link is in the Welcome Stickies at the top of this forum. I hope my words have helped in some minor way, hate to see you suffer!

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That’s a good point to remember every time we mess up in any way. There’s always a fresh start.

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