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Feb 13, 2023 at 01:17 PM
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Does anyone else on here feel like being fat is their identity? Because I think that’s part of my problem here; for so long, I’ve been told I’m a fat person and therefore a slew of other adjectives— bad, lazy, dumb, undisciplined, etc. Doctors, nurses, laypeople, my family… lots of different people have said it in one way or another. Then when I lost a **** ton of weight several years ago, everyone literally did a 180 on me and told me I was incredible, an inspiration, so much better than I used to be… no joke. I kid you not when I say that it really, really ****ed me up. I don’t want to be someone those types of people admire— snotty, rude, insulting, shallow, mean… and for the life of me, I can’t seem to separate all those adjectives from “thin and healthy.” I think it’s a major part of the issue with me, and I was curious if anyone else on here has identity issues regarding their weight. Any thoughts?
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Feb 13, 2023 at 02:49 PM
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Please don't internalize the adjectives people throw at you.They don't define the real you.And moreover you acknowledged your own issues and acted to solve it.You are a way better person than all those who send the slew of negative adjectives your way.
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Feb 18, 2023 at 05:19 PM
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It’s hard not to internalize those comments when not only did I hear them when I was fat, but that I stopped hearing them when I was thin. People are such assholes— they needed to mind their own business and see me for who I was regardless of my size, but they didn’t. I’m not stupid— did they think I wouldn’t get it? Did they really think I would forget all the horrible things they had said to me before? The answer is probably that they didn’t think at all. Like i said, people are assholes. Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk |
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