[webbwebb]

My wife wants a divorce after over 20 years of marriage because I am accused of a large number of nasty events towards my wife over a long period of time that has never occurred.
Reading a fair bit on the www the nearest thing seems to be a paranoid personality disorder. With this disorder can they also have delusions of events that never occurred? I am not sure if my wife has this disorder or something worst. These delusions are happening on a weekly/daily basis
Any help on this will be greatly appreciated.
Kind Regards

[picklewheeze]

It could be. Paranoia is a bit like internal manipulation and the longer it goes on the harder it is to differntiate between real thoughts and paranoid thoughts. This can come acroas very nastily to other people but one must try and empathise with someone with paranoia and imagine just how terryfyig it is anf how vulnerable they must feel.

You probably know better as you can see most.off her symptoms and.compare them against the symptoms off various disorders. Lots off mental disorders.can have paranoid attributes.to it as well.for.example you.can be a paranoid schizophrenuic which would lead to some pretty intense delusions. Im not saying i think this is the problem, i couodnt possibly know. Im just puttig it out there.

[Contrast]

People can go through persecutory phases - prior to a brief psychotic breakdown or a psychotic disorder, the delusion may last for quite a while.

There are different types of delusions so you must be specific..
Delusions of grandiose?
Messiah delusion?
Persecutory delusions?
External-influenced delusions?

[Roukan]

I am in no way saying this is the case. There is always the chance your wife has a guilty conscious about some secret she is affraid of you exposing. Maybe you should nose around and see what you can find...just sayin...

[jeneveve]

I'm not sure exactly what paraniod personality disorder means. I came to this forum because I think my sister has this. And she has made serious accusations against her husband based on delusions. She has a history of being delusional, always paranoia and things other people are doing to her. But she firmly believes that her thoughts are real. She cannot accept that there is anything wrong with her thinking.

She was only given supervised custody of her children. The court found her "delusional." She went to several psychiatrists until one finally said she was ok and now she has weekend visitation. She tells all her delusions to the children.

I don't know what to do. I can't deal with this dark imaginary world she lives in every day. I don't want my niece and nephew to be there. I am angry that she won't get help. And I am soooo sad. I may have to just end my relationship because I can't take it anymore.

I hope your wife doesn't have this!

[maheshji]

meditation

[Nightingale123]

I am so sorry to hear this. Am going through a similar thing. And it was given me ill health. Do you find that some of her accusations are somewhat true, and some are untrue?

[webbwebb]

Thank you for the responses

My wife suffers from Persecutory delusions and also every comment I make is made into some kind of dig at her.

For 20 years she claimed to have multiple sclerosis being in a wheelchair, relaps, etc. The doctors told 6 months ago there was nothing wrong with her physically. She now has invented another autoimmune disorder that she has.

As she thinks there is nothing wrong with her there is no propect of any improvement in her illness.

Regards,
Steve Webb