[Thorn Bird]

Sometimes my NPD partner rages, belittles, puts me down and is emotionally abusive - not at the beginning though he was charming, loving and attentive. Because of his behaviour which is like the 'cycle of abuse' I am become to distrust him and believe he may be cheating etc. He tells me I am paranoid! I do not check up on him, go through his things, follow him, text or phone him all day - all I do is sometimes ask questions because at times he thinks so little of me and is so abusive - do you think I am paranoid?

[tlfx0826]

Relationships are not about staying together because you feel as though there is no way out, or because you are in love. Although love is a logical reason to stay with someone. If he is being abusive in anyway its time to say goodbye. You must think about yourself. He is trying to manipulate you into thinking you are the one doing something wrong to take the spotlight off of him. Recognize your strengths and utilize them to make a firm decision. It could be one of the most important decisions of your life.

P.S That does not mean you have a mental health illness. If you simply asked a question and he blew it out of porportion then obviously there are some things you guys need to communicate better about. Do not think you are the one in the wrong here. Relationship=Communication and trust.
Without communication there will be no trust

[Atypical_Disaster]

You're not paranoid, you're in a bad relationship.

[Dyke]

I was in a relationship like that. Get out as soon an you can. Hes putting it on you to distract from himself. My ex was cheating on me and did that to me

[Psychochick]

I agree with all of the above. YOU are not the one with the problem; HE is. I know, I was in a relationship like that and I am so glad to be rid of him.

Send him packing!!!! He doesn't deserve you!

[MrMessy]

It really sounds like you are treated poorly, please get out of the relationship!

[Atypical_Disaster]

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