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Default Dec 24, 2021 at 02:12 AM
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I need to live alone but my mother stays with me because I lost my license and she needs to drive my kids around whom I have only part time and they are older teens.

I am 48 and my mother is controlling, condescending, critical, hovering, etc. she ignores me, never talks to me or spends time with me etc and just sits in my living room all day watching tv.

I am going insane even more with her living with me.

I feel like I am 10 around her.

I have visited family for thanksgiving and Xmas for my kids only but I realize that I am way too distrusting, paranoid, observant, aware, sensitive etc to be around others all the time.

I need to live alone but I never get to. And I never get to be alone with my kids EVER!!!!
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Default Dec 24, 2021 at 02:16 AM
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I felt the same way when I was with my parents. They can be very critical and overprotective. Luckily I was able to get away and live on my own. I don't have kids though. That definitely complicates things.
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Default Dec 26, 2021 at 11:51 AM
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Could she not have her own place and live there when the kids are not around? I completely understand your need to be alone and though it's good of her to help, it's not ok for you to give up your personal space entirely, in my opinion.

My sibling wants me to live near her, but I already feel crowded living in the same town. Even though it hurts her, I keep telling her that I love her, but hell will freeze over before I even so much as move to the same district as her.

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Default Dec 23, 2023 at 03:29 AM
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Two tears later and nothing has changed. What if it never gets better? I get worse every day. I would have ended my life long ago but I cannot do that to my kids. They are grown now and I hardly get any time with them. I am grateful that they are doing so welll, at least. My mind never stops terrorizing me. Not one aspect of my life is comforting. I have no sense of security, no hope. I fight so extremely hard and do so much work but nothing changes. The constant fear, worry, and despair are unbearable.
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