[ceje]

I feel so frustrated. My husband has lots of health issue including bipolar and he won't take meds of any kind. On top of his extreme cycling we have four kids and one of our daughters has inherited his medical issues and is "autistic like". I feel sometimes like I'm walking a tight rope without a net. I have no friends cause for a long time I was in denial about how bad it really was. And now everytime I try he runs them off. It was so bad I made him leave until he promised to get help. He made an appt and never followed through when I let him come home. Now he has another appt and I can't help but think if he doesn't go what am I going to do. I know you shouldn't borrow trouble but I've been with him over 8 years. We married when I was 17 and parents 10 months later. I don't remember what its like not to be married and a mom and I know my husband he is a proud man. He hates admitting that he has issues. I am so tired. I'm sorry I shouldn't whine its just so hard sometimes.

[AShadow721]

I have a friend who is bipolar and it's hard for me to understand sometimes what I should and shouldn't say to her. Sometimes they don't accept our compassion or sympathy in the way we intend for them too. It can be very difficult to deal with, but I do love my friend and I'm willing to stick with her. But she is very proud as well. She would rather try to deal with her bipolar on her own, than accept help from a doctor. I'm not really sure how you could get them to break that tough exterior. Maybe a family intervention?

Also, I have a second cousin whom has classic austim. I took care of him most of the time when he was a baby, because my cousin was/still is a drug addict and was not ready or prepared to have a child. I can understand that that can be quite difficult and frustrating. What are your daughter's symptoms? There's a forum here on PC just for ASD's. I hope that helps you and offers you some support.

I don't understand... did your husband run your friends off because of his mental health issues (like did your friends decide your husband was too crazy to be around?), or is he controlling your social life? If he's controlling your social life, that's abusive. But either way, if you love him, then I know you probably couldn't give up on getting him help.

Why don't you post in the Bipolar forum? Other people like him might be able to help you understand how to get him to his appt and make sure he stays getting the help he needs.

Don't worry about whining, PC is for support.

[ceje]

Thanks I'll try the other sub headings. My daughter "official" diagnosis of the moment is sensory processing disorder with select mutism and autistic tendencies. As well as a mild case of cerebal palsy(new one). The easiest way to explain is to say severe social anxiety with weak muscle control and stemming.

[AShadow721]

I had autistic symptoms as a child as well as select mutism for sure. But I don't believe I actually have ASD, an old T told me I couldn't possibly, because I can understand other people. But I never talked as a child although I knew how to. I rarely talked to anyone but my mother or my sister. My sister would talk for me if she needed to. I was never treated for these things, because these kinds of things weren't researched enough for people to know the signs of them when I was a child. But I started outside of school therapy when I was 8, I started in-school group therapy when I was 6. I still have social phobias, but I can talk to some more people. But I still only really talk to 2-3 people in my life without trouble. And I don't usually talk if it's not one-on-one. I'm sorry you have to deal with these things. I hope your daughter will get better and your husband will accept treatment.

[ceje]

And he runs them off by being controlling. I know its awful I was in denial a long time, but I am trying to take my power back. Like you said I love him or else Id be long gone by now. I have been in a physically abusive relationship its awful but mental abuse is more subtal and makes you doubt yourself slowly. Now that I'm aware I try to not let it happen.

[AShadow721]

I'm sorry he's controlling. I hope you do learn to be more assertive with him and get those boundaries back in place. After a physically abusive relationship, we'll take anything and think we're being treated like a queen, because we're not being hit. That physically abusive relationship is probably what threw your boundaries out of wack. You'll have to stand up for yourself and make sure he knows he has no right to control your friendships. People need friends. I hope he gets to his appt, so he can get help for this. Do you ever get to see a T? Because all this can be very stressful to deal with on your own.

[ceje]

No I want to go see one but there just seems like no time. Our girl has so much therapy and then school time and my huuby's stuff it just seems impossible. I have joined a support group for moms of disabled kids but its only once a month.