[Polyakov]

Hates most people regardless of gender, ethnicity, creed.
Hides behind a 'mask personality'.
Creates problematic situations for personal enjoyment. (e.g. Framing a co-workers for theft, creating divisions amongst family members, etc)
Expresses no guilt or remorse for his/her actions.
Greatly exaggerates his/her abilities; refuses to acknowledge shortcomings.
Consistently neutral countenance. (Never seen him/her smile or cry.)
Dishonest, deceptive, and manipulative.

How do you deal with someone like this on an interpersonal level?
Is 'evil bastard' a PD?

[Direction]

Welcome to PC!

Glad you could vent and post! How do you deal with someone like you describe...I'm guessing you know the answer...keep yourself safe and avoid being emeshed with this person!

[Polyakov]

Originally Posted by Direction

Welcome to PC!

Glad you could vent and post! How do you deal with someone like you describe...I'm guessing you know the answer...keep yourself safe and avoid being emeshed with this person!

I am this person.

[NuckingFutz]

Um, you might want to look in the DSM, Axis II, Cluster B. Those would be the agressive personality disorders. Maybe Borderline Personality Disorder, Narcissistic Personality Disorder, Antisocial Personality Disorder... goodluck. Most people advise having NO CONTACT with these people, they will attempt to destroy your life.

Good luck to you.

[Direction]

Originally Posted by Rev6.4

refuses to acknowledge shortcomings.

If you are describing yourself, you can strike out this one. Apparently you are coming into some awareness about yourself and the changes you would like to make.

[Polyakov]

Originally Posted by Direction

If you are describing yourself, you can strike out this one. Apparently you are coming into some awareness about yourself and the changes you would like to make.

Oh, I don't want to change, I'm quite happy with my gifts. I would, however, like to have a more accurate judgment of my strengths and weaknesses. I'm prone to leaping before I look and trusting my instincts (so to speak) to carry me through which has put me in a spot or two.

Originally Posted by Polyakov

Oh, I don't want to change, I'm quite happy with my gifts. I would, however, like to have a more accurate judgment of my strengths and weaknesses. I'm prone to leaping before I look and trusting my instincts (so to speak) to carry me through which has put me in a spot or two.

Welcome, friend!

Hates most people regardless of gender, ethnicity, creed.
Hides behind a 'mask personality'.
Creates problematic situations for personal enjoyment. (e.g. Framing a co-workers for theft, creating divisions amongst family members, etc)
̶E̶x̶p̶r̶e̶s̶s̶e̶s̶ [Has] no guilt or remorse for his/her actions.
̶G̶r̶e̶a̶t̶l̶y̶ ̶e̶x̶a̶g̶g̶e̶r̶a̶t̶e̶s̶ [Gleefully informs others of] his/her abilities; ̶r̶e̶f̶u̶s̶e̶s̶ [reluctant] to acknowledge shortcomings.
Consistently neutral countenance. (Never seen him/her smile or cry.)
Dishonest, deceptive, and manipulative.

We have much of that in common, save a few small differences: I have no guilt or remorse, but I do mimic the behaviour that expresses such emotions; I don't exaggerate; and I have learned the usefulness of humility.

How do you deal with someone like this on an interpersonal level?

With great patience, cynicism, and a good sense of humour.

Is 'evil bastard' a PD?

Most would agree that "psychopaths" are the greatest of the evildoers. And to those folks who think so highly of me and my ilk, I'm truly flattered.

[Harnbrand]

I find it amusing, Polyakov, that you deliberately misled people toward believing you were describing someone other than yourself in an attempt to see what sort of abuse it would attract. All in all, Direction was fairly tactful about her response to the OP, I think.

Are you disappointed?

[lynn P.]

Aww come on.....you know exactly what these personality traits say about you. As you said in your other thread...you think you're smarter than all of us. Maybe we're smarter than you think. BTW very smart people don't need to blow their own horn.

[SoupDragon]

Originally Posted by Polyakov

Oh, I don't want to change, I'm quite happy with my gifts. I would, however, like to have a more accurate judgment of my strengths and weaknesses. I'm prone to leaping before I look and trusting my instincts (so to speak) to carry me through which has put me in a spot or two.

In order to help you understand more about your strengths and weaknesses, can you give any examples of the "spot or two" that you have put yourself in?

It may also be helpful for you to share more about what you describe as gifts, to establish whether your perceptions of these being strengths (I assume?) match other peoples perceptions

[Polyakov]

Originally Posted by Harnbrand

I find it amusing, Polyakov, that you deliberatelyfi misled people toward believing you were describing someone other than yourself in an attempt to see what sort of abuse it would attract. All in all, Direction was fairly tactful about her response to the OP, I think.

Are you disappointed?

I didn't post this topic here, it was moved here by admin from the antisocial forums. The topic was an attempt at finding out more about myself (as I have neither the time nor money to commit to psychoanalysis) and finding a way to understand the dynamics of the relationship between myself and my fiance. So while the assumptions you've made about my actions and their intent are incorrect, there is no amount of stupidity or outright incompetence that could make me disappointed in you. You are, of course, only human.

[Polyakov]

Originally Posted by lynn P.

Aww come on.....you know exactly what these personality traits say about you. As you said in your other thread...you think you're smarter than all of us. Maybe we're smarter than you think. BTW very smart people don't need to blow their own horn.

No arrogance intended, but as a matter of fact, I am more intelligent than the average person. "I'm sorry, it's science." I have a high IQ, I believe I said that in the other thread quite possibly because it's relevant to what I was saying in the other thread. Maybe a little out of context here, but by all means. If you are in fact in my intellectual neighborhood, I acknowledge you, but I wouldn't be so quick to associate my own intellect with every other member of this board as the words "we're" and "us" in your post indicates. I think that the more likely truth is that you are intimidated by the medium through which I am communicating with you. I will make a deal with you, which I don't often do. If you promise to read what I write without assumption and keep it all within context, then I will do my best to use a monosyllabic dialect when communicating with you directly and if unsuccessful, we can resort to grunts and exaggerated hand gestures.

PS YOUR DOG IS SO CUTE

[Polyakov]

Originally Posted by SoupDragon

In order to help you understand more about your strengths and weaknesses, can you give any examples of the "spot or two" that you have put yourself in?

It may also be helpful for you to share more about what you describe as gifts, to establish whether your perceptions of these being strengths (I assume?) match other peoples perceptions

I'm a rather direct person. I say what I'm thinking; I write what I'm thinking. I make no apologies for this, but it has a tendency to reflect poorly upon me either in the opinions or actions of others. As you can imagine, being straight with people isn't always well received and can (and has) lead to multiple confrontations, both physical and verbal.

As far as what I consider to be a gift, in short, a disconnect. I'm not crushed by guilt, I don't languish in sorrow over things that I have done in the past that cannot be changed, I don't waste my time maintaining pointless relationships, I save money on birthday and get well soon cards, I don't generally do things I do not wish to do out of a feeling of obligation, I don't worry about death, I don't take the cares of others upon myself, and probably more than anything else, I feel that a lack of commonality between myself and most other people allows me to view things from a realistic perspective. My life is simple, self-serving, and I live without regret. I don't really care whether or not my perception of what is good and bad is in line with everyone else; while you're at the funeral crying, laying flowers, and staring at a corpse in makeup, I'm at home reading a book, playing with my cat, and having a relaxing drink with my feet up.

[Polyakov]

I'm feeling bored today so I might just throw another line out there for my adversaries to have a go with. Since page 2 already belongs to me, I'll make one last elaborating post before finding something else to do.

I'm not the same person I used to be. When I left home, I was disillusioned with the world, depressed, lost, hateful. I hated everything and everyone, most of all myself. I couldn't relate to other people, I was different from them. I looked for help, I spoke with counselors of all kinds, I joined a support group, but I never really felt like anything helped. I reached a point in my life where I felt dead inside, I was so depressed and only two options seemed open to me: suicide or rebirth. I chose to rebuild. Call it allegory or metaphor or whatever you wish, but I constructed a new person out of what I was. I threw away everything I'd been taught about religion, morality, and almost 2 decades of social programming and built a new person, a better person. I made a new 'religion'. It's not perfect, nothing is, but it works for me. I cannot begin to explain the feeling of liberation I feel. I realize now that I don't need you (pl), you're the ones that are broken, you just don't see it. I don't hate you so much anymore because I know that it's just in your nature to be different from me. We are like two different species. I still wonder sometimes though if perhaps there's another person out there that is like me. I think in my head we'd talk, mutually respect each other, share ideas, talk about books we liked, movies we didn't, share amusing stories about the people in our lives that just don't 'get it', and after a long (neither fulfilling or draining) relationship, one of us would end up skipping out on the other's funeral because after all we didn't really care in the first place.

[bigdog773]

Originally Posted by Polyakov

Hates most people regardless of gender, ethnicity, creed.
Hides behind a 'mask personality'.
Creates problematic situations for personal enjoyment. (e.g. Framing a co-workers for theft, creating divisions amongst family members, etc)
Expresses no guilt or remorse for his/her actions.
Greatly exaggerates his/her abilities; refuses to acknowledge shortcomings.
Consistently neutral countenance. (Never seen him/her smile or cry.)
Dishonest, deceptive, and manipulative.

How do you deal with someone like this on an interpersonal level?
Is 'evil bastard' a PD?

He could be suffering from a "Histrionic Pedrsonality Disorder" or "Narcissistic Personality Disorder" Look them both up and see if you see traits of your boyfriend within the the disorders. I dated a woman with whom I fell madly in love with only to discover she had both disorders.

If you see traits tied to these disorders urge him to see a professional mental health practioner

[StrongerMan]

If you are happy this way then what is the problem? Treating people as objects or simply sources of your needs will certainly bring an abundance of chaos and conflict in life. If this is what you thrive on, then God speed. The question in your subject line asks what personality disorder this is. You seem to be a walking contradiction. Are you gifted and superior (liberated as you say) or are you disordered and disconnected. It seems you consider yourself to be all of the above. But I question whether you are really happy with how you treat other people. May I ask what are the specific "dynamics" of the relationship with your fiance? Do you consider them to be positive or negative for the two of you? Do you wish to improve them for the benefit of the relationship? Or rather to better serve your own need to manipulate this person to act and think in ways that reflect well enough of you? Will you bravely admit to having a weakness? Are you willing and able to improve or eliminate that negative aspect of yourself? Or will you once again devalue and discard your "adversary" as a defense mechanism? More bluntly, do you want to remain a fugitive from your true self all of your life? Or do you want to stand up, take off the mask, be a man and join the human race?