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My boyfriend has borderline personality disorder, and when he is stress with the addition of an argument he tends to get violent... towards himself. It hurts me every time he does because I used to cut. I know it is hard for him to control himself when this "other side of him" kicks in, and I am usually there trying to stop him from continuing the self abuse. Lately, it seems like I can't control him when he gets like that and every time he hurts himself the urge to cut grows. Yesterday we got into a heated argument and his self abuse began. I tried to stop him. He stopped and I think I just distracted him because he just threw out hurtful comments towards me. In the heat of things I yelled back that every time he began to abuse himself I would cut myself. I was... about half serious. I just want him to try to think before he does something because that isn't what people with BPD do: think. I just feel like I am the one who starts the arguments that lead up to that point. Did I take it too far with that statement? What can I do to help him take the extra step to think about what he does before he reacts?

Well, that comment definitely wasn't helpful...but I can understand why you said it. I mean, this must be a very stressful relationship at times!

I'm sorry if other members have asked this before, but is your boyfriend getting any professional help? Is he on any medication? Does he have other mental illnesses? Just a few questions that came to mind while reading your post.

Sending hugs and positive vibes your way.