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Default Oct 19, 2011 at 04:12 AM
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My husband suffers with clinical depression. He has not spoken to me for a week and a half the main reason been through neither of our faults we could not do something we had planned.
He comes in from work having bought two bottles of wine and sits watching TV with glass in hand. He gets his own food, if I make him a cup of tea he just leaves it and makes another. If I speak to him he just ignores me.
I find it very difficult to cope with
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Default Oct 19, 2011 at 04:52 AM
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Something is obviously wrong. I would try to talk to him about it and maybe he will tell you. If you are seeing a T I would also maybe talk to them and maybe they will have some ideas on what to do and to how to go about it.
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Default Oct 20, 2011 at 03:58 AM
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I have tried talking but he just stares ahead or walks out of the room. If I touch him he pulls away. I have spoken to one of his therapists in the past and they say it is a behavioral problem. I should talk to him and hope something sinks in. Very easy to say when you are not living with the problem
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Default Oct 20, 2011 at 10:44 AM
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I don't think bad behavior such as you describe has anything to do with depression and his "problems". I would not tolerate being treated like that. That's childish, to not talk to you/hold you responsible just because a plan fell through; more plans can be made, other things can be enjoyed.

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Default Oct 20, 2011 at 11:27 AM
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when my husband and i get in a bad arguement he does that to me. i dont let it get to me, its hard i just let it go until he is ready to talk. a week and half is a very long time. mayb suggest going out n doing something. something he wont resist. if trying to talk to him doesnt work a letter mayb? ive done that before. explaining what am feeling or asking questions.

i hope everything works out
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Default Oct 20, 2011 at 11:53 AM
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I agree with Perna - your husband is acting like a spoiled sulking child. For you to be nice and make him tea but instead he makes his own, this is very disrespectful. He's being passive aggressive. My husband has done this ignoring trick, refusing to accept the smallest kindness and even hanging up the phone on me. Don't tolerate it and he needs to learn how to express his negative emotions like a man not a child. Depression doesn't make you completely ignore your partner or refuse to drink / eat what they give you.

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