[mylostcubie]

HI, i even dunno if this is the right place. I'm just overwhelmed and teared in two. I had a nearly three years hellish relationship with a BPD. It's now over with no going back. She's gone. Forever. I know a lot about bpd , i read a lot. I know what's happening. But at the moment I can't deal with it.
I need someone to speak to me. Please dont leave me alone. Please

[mylostcubie]

I'd like to chat with someone as I'm feeling lost, lonely and totally wrecked. I'd need some sort of support or just the warm of talking with a human being. Please help

[Jannaku]

Hi there. Welcome to PC. Feel free to chat. You obviously are struggling with your current situation. If it is any consolation time is a great healer and your feelings are normal. It's a loss like any loss and it hurts to lose someone so close to you. Just remember to keep yourself strong and remember that as devastating as it all feels right now there is a light at the end of the tunnel. There are some great people here on PC so you need never feel alone.

[BDPpartner]

Living with a partner with bpd is a very hard life choice, my family and his tell me i'm crazy. But at the moment i'm managing to hang in there but i do worry that the ' point of no return ' may one day come. But just remember you've survived if and are out the other side

[channelblocker]

You're not alone. Me too is in a roller coaster for 3 years and it's draining me. I don't know what to do? To leave or to stay? It's my choice. But the book which is stop walking on eggshells helps me. I feel lost but now I feel better.

[Pandora'sBox]

Hiya,

Can I just say firstly, someone isn't 'BPD' - that's saying 'relationship with a borderline personality disorder'. A person who has BPD isn't their disorder personified. They may have a disorder or suffer with a disorder. But it's probably more appropriate to say 'relationship with a person who has BPD'. You are not having a relationship with BPD itself, but someone who has been diagnosed as having/suffering with this disorder.

I know you will probably think that I am nit-picking, but I think it is small things like this that change our perception of people's problems.

Secondly, I am sorry that you are feeling so alone right now and so upset by the end of your relationship. But as others have said, as horrible as it may feel right now, and even if you feel like the sadness/desperation you feel will never end; it will. It might take a week, a month, 6 months, a year, several years. But you won't feel the same way you feel at the moment forever. You will be able to move on one day and once again enjoy your life.

I hope that happens sooner rather than later, and I hope you manage to find the support you need, in real life and on here.

Take care.

[mednurse80]

Originally Posted by mylostcubie

HI, i even dunno if this is the right place. I'm just overwhelmed and teared in two. I had a nearly three years hellish relationship with a BPD. It's now over with no going back. She's gone. Forever. I know a lot about bpd , i read a lot. I know what's happening. But at the moment I can't deal with it.
I need someone to speak to me. Please dont leave me alone. Please

I have BPD. Can you elaborate more?