[ocdwifeofsociopath]

Hi. I love my husband. We have horrible downs and amazing ups and everything in between. My question is, what is it that breaks up most marriages with somebody who is ASPD. I'm asking because I can't see it at the moment. My husband does not do anything deserving of the loss of my love or divorce. My thought is that maybe infidelity might be it? It's the only thing that makes sense to me. I do not want to hurt anybody's feelings. But it has been bothering me that more men with ASPD aren't successful in relationships. Or is it on their part because of the impulsiveness, quick to boredom, love of excitement and change?

[DePressMe]

ocdwife, ASPD is something that is hard to manage and can cause severe havoc in relationships. It's tough to have a partner who is so passionate and constantly up and down so I feel for you. I admire you for sticking with him and wanting to understand what is going on in ASPD relationships. Unfortunately I don't have much of an answer for you...it's just such a complicated issue. My brother is ASPD. His ups and down were so severe that he abused me (mainly verbal). But, then when he had a good moment he was nice to me and I'd forgive him for being mean but then it seemed like he would use his "niceness" as way to take me down when he was down. Like I said, it's complicated. I would have to say he has been in a long term relationship--it has been extremely rocky and he has abused his partner but to my knowledge he never cheated on her--he fed off the excitement of the cycles caused by the ASPD. So, I can somewhat understand what you are going through--even if I don't have any answers for you. Stay strong and fight the urge to let your husband take you on his roller coaster of ASPD...he needs a stable person in his life.....D.

[ocdwifeofsociopath]

Thank you for responding I really didn't think when it got moved to this forum id get a response that wasn't from a negative point of view. There are so many misconceptions about it.

[Douglas MacNeill]

Originally Posted by ocdwifeofsociopath

Hi. I love my husband. We have horrible downs and amazing ups and everything in between. My question is, what is it that breaks up most marriages with somebody who is ASPD. I'm asking because I can't see it at the moment. My husband does not do anything deserving of the loss of my love or divorce. My thought is that maybe infidelity might be it? It's the only thing that makes sense to me. I do not want to hurt anybody's feelings. But it has been bothering me that more men with ASPD aren't successful in relationships. Or is it on their part because of the impulsiveness, quick to boredom, love of excitement and change?

Anti-social personality disorder? The impulsivity, desperate need for the rush of excitement and change, and other stuff you mentioned are traits of a prime candidate for infidelity.

"...maybe infidelity might be it?" Yes; infidelity would be exactly it in more than a few cases.