[BDPpartner]

My other half has just had a futher diagnosis of Ocd on top of his Bpd, is there anyone else with this combination of illness, if so any advise

[Morgansangel]

I have both of these as two of my diagnoses, but I'm not sure what advice you're wanting?

[BDPpartner]

Well for example my other half gets angry and tends to verbally rant but alot of the time it's as if someone has pressed the repeat button and it's the same rant over and over again. I'm wondering weather to let him burn himself out with this looping behaviour is the best course of action or whether to stop him after a few loops ?

[Trippin2.0]

I do. Sounds extremely similar to my experience.
Just this past week I was badly triggered bpd wise, and the ocd kicked into full gear. 6 days of unrelenting intrusive repetitive thoughts regarding abandonment. Drove my bf nuts, then I kept apologizing and explaining like a damn lunatic because I was obsessing over whether I was clear. He probably felt harrassed at one point

Nothing I did stopped the loop, I tried ever distraction I know, and since my bf ended up ignoring me (for damn good reason) he exacerbated the loop. We talked things out tonight though, I'm actually glad he went silent, gave my mind enough time to hit reset on its own.

I'm sure that if you know the nature of the loop you can short circuit it for him. What is best is up to you guys, I wouldn't presume to advise that you make that your responsibility though.

[Morgansangel]

I'd say let him burn out. Well for me anyway sometimes when I'm looping I'm just trying to find a way to express it in a way that explains it to the other person and if someone stops me mid way through it makes me feel like they don't *want* to understand or don't believe me and just want me to shut up because I'm annoying them. It tends to loop out of frustration for me because I stated to say something and I can see the other person doesn't understand so I try to say it again but sometimes my brain just throws out the same thing while it's trying to think up the other way to say it because if I stop talking the other person will think I'm finished and start saying something and I don't know whether then to answer what they are saying or carry on trying to think of the other way to say what I was trying to think of because if I go on to the next thing the other person hasn't understood what I'm saying but if I carry on with the old comment then they'll think I'm ignoring them and get annoyed or I'll forget what they said when I finally find the way to say it.

Gah I'm getting tangled trying to explain it!

[Fuzzybear]