how do I deal with someone who has both of these issues..i am going nuts with her living in my house?..i can barely handle my own borderline personality disorder I don't need more issues from her.

[healingme4me]

Are you married to her, and his your son, also her son? Because, if not, you can always show her, the door...

Originally Posted by healingme4me

Are you married to her, and his your son, also her son? Because, if not, you can always show her, the door...

no my son is mine they don't share blood at all...I have tried to kick her out but hubby needs his 'mommy here' cuz he is codependent on her just like she is with him

[IndieVisible]

Originally Posted by sick of it all

how do I deal with someone who has both of these issues..i am going nuts with her living in my house?..i can barely handle my own borderline personality disorder I don't need more issues from her.

Let me get this str8. You have BPD and she has NPD? Is that correct?

[healingme4me]

Originally Posted by sick of it all

no my son is mine they don't share blood at all...I have tried to kick her out but hubby needs his 'mommy here' cuz he is codependent on her just like she is with him

My apologies, for having not read the other thread, first, to get a clearer picture.

Narcissists need to be #1. And in turn, sounds like she has created a son, who feeds into her personality.

Minus the bpd, you sound at the same frustration level, that I was at, when I was ready to move out, of my mom's home. Ideally, would have liked, to have stayed, just another year longer, to save up more money, post-graduation, but I just couldn't take it any more!

Your situation, is much more compounded, than mine was, because you have a special needs son, to attend to.

Living with toxicity, is difficult. Doesn't she have anywhere else, she can go live? How did she end up, with the three of you?

Originally Posted by IndieVisible

Let me get this str8. You have BPD and she has NPD? Is that correct?

yes exactly

Originally Posted by healingme4me

My apologies, for having not read the other thread, first, to get a clearer picture.

Narcissists need to be #1. And in turn, sounds like she has created a son, who feeds into her personality.

Minus the bpd, you sound at the same frustration level, that I was at, when I was ready to move out, of my mom's home. Ideally, would have liked, to have stayed, just another year longer, to save up more money, post-graduation, but I just couldn't take it any more!

Your situation, is much more compounded, than mine was, because you have a special needs son, to attend to.

Living with toxicity, is difficult. Doesn't she have anywhere else, she can go live? How did she end up, with the three of you?

her sister lives in mexico but since she is "poor" she wants nothing to do with her..also she is a bigot so she thinks shes American now..and well of course her in-laws cant stand her either..so hubby (her only son' brought her to live with us because he wont put her in a nursing home where she clearly belongs