[hulksgirlfriend]

I am wondering if these signs could be bipolar disorder..
I've been w my boyfriend for a year. We live together and I'm now pregnant and I have 2 kids from a previous marriage.

He is happy and talking about marriage and then minutes later tells me that he hates me, to get out of our house, calls me names, threatens to leave, threatens to mess with my job mess with my credibility, ruin my car etc.
He comes home fine then walks around the house and finds something petty like a sock on the floor then yells for 2 hours in tangents and calls me names.
He's threatened suicide before and to kill me.
He drinks with friends until midnight or later 4 times per week.
He buys/trades motortoys often.
One minute we are having a normal conversation then he goes off...
I've noticed that the day's when he texts me extra mushy things and tells me he loves me every 10 minutes, those are the day's he will come home and threaten to kill me or tell me to leave or threaten to cheat or to leave or call me bad names etc
He goes from topic to topic so fast that I get lost in what he's talking about or mad about.
He sometimes even invents things and assumes things then goes wild with yelling for hours at a time.
He says he will go to a doc about it then he says he won't then will then won't.....he loves me then he hates me....
What's going on in his head?

[sintesi]

It's very difficult to say. He might be or it might be a combination of things.
What concerns me most is the threats of self harm and bringing harm to others. Alcohol will aggravate things as it tends to make depression worse in some people. The irritation and outburst are also common in some when they are manic. The buying and trading is also something is suffered with.

Best advice is to try and get him to see a doc as soon as possible.

All the best. I really hope it works out and that he gets the treatment he badly needs.

[Ruftin]

Originally Posted by hulksgirlfriend

I am wondering if these signs could be bipolar disorder..
I've been w my boyfriend for a year. We live together and I'm now pregnant and I have 2 kids from a previous marriage.

He is happy and talking about marriage and then minutes later tells me that he hates me, to get out of our house, calls me names, threatens to leave, threatens to mess with my job mess with my credibility, ruin my car etc.
He comes home fine then walks around the house and finds something petty like a sock on the floor then yells for 2 hours in tangents and calls me names.
He's threatened suicide before and to kill me.
He drinks with friends until midnight or later 4 times per week.
He buys/trades motortoys often.
One minute we are having a normal conversation then he goes off...
I've noticed that the day's when he texts me extra mushy things and tells me he loves me every 10 minutes, those are the day's he will come home and threaten to kill me or tell me to leave or threaten to cheat or to leave or call me bad names etc
He goes from topic to topic so fast that I get lost in what he's talking about or mad about.
He sometimes even invents things and assumes things then goes wild with yelling for hours at a time.
He says he will go to a doc about it then he says he won't then will then won't.....he loves me then he hates me....
What's going on in his head?

I'm Bipolar and I can say I relate to him when having mixed episodes but while I have felt like harming someone, I have never verbalized or acted on it, but my rage has escalated to that point. Him verbalizing thoughts of harming others in combination with alcohol consumption could potentially end in disaster. The feelings of his rage are very real and in my experience very difficult to control. He needs to see a Dr. so he can feel better and so that you and your family can be safe.

[hulksgirlfriend]

More than half of the time he refuses to get help. He uses excuses...says he hasn't received his insurance card...that he has no money...I explain to him that he can request a card and that the co pay will be all we pay. (both of us work).
Usually his big excuse to not seek treatment is that I have anxiety disorder and I take. 25 mg of canal for treatment and, therefore; he says that I'm crazy and that he refuses to be on meds like me ("the crazy person on meds") he also says that his stepmother and his little brother take meds and he seems scared from his stepmother and calls her names...but sometimes he will take my canard in an attempt to calm himself and he has used Victorian for the same purpose, so it's not like he's seriously against meds.
He also criticizes me when I mention treatment and makes smart comments like "you know the term bipolar because you have gone to a psychiatrist to your problems....you think you know everything, but you're not a doctor"
I've tried telling him that it's not his fault and that a lot of people have conditions and that I'll go with him as he requests.
I could just leave him but he will go without therapy and just run around having the same issues. I want him to be ok and I want him to have a relationship with our child. He only has one aunt and an estranged brother and sister, and now me....
Any suggestions on how to convince him to go for treatment?

[Ruftin]

perhaps recording him when he's out of control and play it back to him later, when he's calmer...often people cannot see their illness from the inside out, but he may respond to actually hearing himself from the outside in??

[Moogieotter]

Hi hulksgirlfriend,

Sounds pretty turbulent. The situation sounds very difficult and I hope you find a solution. I am not sure if what you describe add up to Bipolar disorder, but it's definitely worth looking into. Maybe he just has a bad attitude?

Best of luck and keep posting,

moogs