[Ganganthefatman]

I don't know how to do it. I've been crying at random points through out the days ever since she told me how much worse it's gotten. It's making me so depressed. I've been looking desperately for help. I've seen a few others in my position that have been told that they need support as well since it can (definitely) be hard on the supporter as well. The problem is though, that I have a hard time accepting help, and kindness as well. It's not that I don't appreciate, it's just a long story as to why I don't. But one of the reasons I don't is because I'd feel really selfish accepting help where as she needs it WAY more than I do. Would I be wrong to accept the same amount of support as she deserves?

I've also read stories of how couples have gotten pass purging, and it tears me apart. Because everything they did, they did together, in the warmth of their flesh, where as me and my girlfriend are long distance right now, and we started that way. I joined job corps to get to her so we can be together, but they most likely won't let me see her on break. I'll try to ask them, but it'll most likely unfortunately be a no. It tears me apart that I'm here while she's a thousand miles away just slowly dying. All I can do now is just support her, but a part of me feels like it's just not enough. That same part of me is even preparing for her death, and that part lies so heavily on my shoulders, just the thought of it is too much to bare. What do I do? I feel so useless to her right now. I can literally feel her slipping away from me. But I love her too much to let her go like this.

[Crazy Hitch]

Hi Ganganthefatman

I just wanted to put it out there - thank you so much for how you are attempting to assist your girlfriend who has some definite issues; and as a result has created emotional turmoil within you - I am really sorry for this.

I know how much you love her.

And the agony of feeling her slip away from you is unbearable.

You're in a very difficult situation because you are also separated by physical space.

I'm not sure if any of these articles are useful, but I really want to help you:

http://www.anad.org/forum/viewtopic.php?id=8

In Love With A Girl With Anorexia? 5 Ways To Be Good To Her | Dr. Nefertiti Nowell | YourTango

https://counseling.caltech.edu/gener...ating_Disorder

Eating Disorders and Relationships: Regaining the Trust of Loved Ones | Surviving ED - HealthyPlace

[Ganganthefatman]

Originally Posted by Hooligan

Hi Ganganthefatman

I just wanted to put it out there - thank you so much for how you are attempting to assist your girlfriend who has some definite issues; and as a result has created emotional turmoil within you - I am really sorry for this.

I know how much you love her.

And the agony of feeling her slip away from you is unbearable.

You're in a very difficult situation because you are also separated by physical space.

I'm not sure if any of these articles are useful, but I really want to help you.

Thanks for the quick reply. Those links were way more helpful than I thought they would be. While they may not be much helpful to me (mentally), at least now I have a better idea on how to help her as much as I can. If only she would talk to me now though. I'm afraid that while I wasn't aggressive in trying to help her, I didn't say the right things. I really hope she can forgive me for that. -_-