[Prother]

Has anybody had experience being unfriended by someone with bpd or bp. I am curious what may cause them to act in this manner?

[CANDC]

Sorry that happened to you on Facebook. I imagine it was caused by impulsiveness and a very defensive attitude.

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[gayleggg]

My stepdaughter is bipolar and she put a lot of stuff on Facebook that she shouldn't have. I told her father and he talked to her about it, needless to say she defriended me. I don't blame her, but it was a relief to me not to have to see the inappropriate things she would post. We are now friends again on Facebook but she seems to be taking a more cautious approach to posting.

I'm sorry that you defriended and not even know why.

[Atypical_Disaster]

I have a friend with BPD who impulsively deletes me from her facebook every couple of months or so. Eventually she adds me back but yes, this has happened to me.

[Claire2015]

Yes that had happened to me too... Right now in fact i have been deleted for a month well blocked but she has this habbit of blocking then unblocking so it could be an impulsive decision in the moment mixed with frustration or other symptoms of BPD

Claire

[comethisfar]

Yes, more than once and by a person very close to me. It is an impulsive reaction that I would label "anything to stop the pain" and it is characteristic for BPD to try and find the cause of that pain in others. You are getting "blamed" for inflicting pain on the BPD because you are close, not necessarily because of what you did or didn't do. Try to not take it personally. That will only cause a worse spiral of pain - blame - unfriend - guilt and shame - refriend - repeat. If it is a big issue for you it is best to talk it through in a quiet moment and make clear to the person that if they unfriend you in an impulse you will not re-accept their friendship when they have calmed down. You do need to see this through then and this could be a "harder limit" than you are willing to enforce. It all depends on how important this issue is to you. Wishing you the best with your FB friend'

[nushi]

Hey Prother,,,

I might have a different opinion from others here, since actually, I'm the one who has this kinda ritual of defriending people on my facebook account!
Though, it's not a cause of my BP, but of my OCD!

I had this issue when I was working, & I fought a lot of meaningless obsessive minor fights with my colleagues, & each time I do that, I get so irked with the relevant colleague, & as a side-revenge, I impulsively defriend them, & then when we make up, I friend them again! & so on & so on!

& actually, they got so frustrated with me for this, that we fought several times just because of this issue of "defriending"! & I felt surprised, as I thought defriending shouldn't be really a big deal, & shouldn't be taken that personally. & later, they threatened me that they're not gonna accept my friendship request again, even though I tried to explain to them that it's really hard for me to control this behavior!

I really think you shouldn't take it personally, I mean, c'mmon, this is facebook, not real life! Unless you actually wanna try to do some therapeutic training for this friend of yours, so as to train her to stop doing this (not 'cause you take this issue as personal, or has any least importance to you), you could try out something to pressure him/her to stop doing this...