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Dec 09, 2015, 11:34 AM
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Brief intro: My mom (deceased) had BPD and my DD seems to have BPD traits, so I am trying to understand more about BPD.
Does having an unstable identity result in your wanting to strongly defend the areas in which you know what you want/like? For instance, if you know you like a certain musician, does someone else not liking them feel like a threat, like it's an invalidation of your preference, or maybe it makes you question whether you really like that musician after all? How does having an unstable sense of self affect your behaviors/actions? |
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Dec 10, 2015, 06:35 PM
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Dec 10, 2015, 08:43 PM
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Hello CuriousDove: Welcome to PsychCentral! PC is a great place to find support as well as to obtain mental health information. There are many knowledgeable & caring members here. The more you post, & reply to other members' posts, the more you'll gain from the time you spend here.
With regard to your questions, I don't know if there are any hard-&-fast rules here. But in general, based on my personal experience, I would say yes having an unstable identity certainly does tend to make a person defensive. It's sort-of like money. If you don't have much of it to begin with, chances are you're probably going to try to keep what you have. Likewise if your sense of self worth is unstable, you're likely going to want to defend those aspects of yourself you feel good about. And, of course, having low self-esteem does, I believe, also tend to affect people's behaviors. For some people, it may mean that they become withdrawn. For others, it may mean that they will take unnecessary risks. Some individuals may push other people away. Others may constantly seek other people's attention. I don't think it is possible to say exactly how having an unstable sense of self will affect a person. But it is certainly true that it does have an effect. 
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Dec 10, 2015, 08:55 PM
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