[CrazyCatGirl]

Originally Posted by Anonymous32970

I can offer you a plethora of advice.

Firstly, don't entertain the notion that you're in battle. That ... Just makes it worse. Secondly, don't try to warn people about his behavior or psychopathy. They won't believe you and he'll use this to turn them against you. And, most importantly, do not allow any of his antics to affect you emotionally ... and if they do, just feign apathy.

Honestly, unless you change your name and flee the country, he's probably never going to leave your life permanently. In my many dealings with psychopaths and from my own experience as a psychopath, I've found that maintaining a disposition halfway between affable and indifferent is the best approach. This means talking to him on occasion and largely ignoring any attempts of his to manipulate or upset you. If you're really crafty, you could try your hand at responding with sarcastic retorts, but I don't typically recommend this to the inexperienced. And set very clear boundaries.

For example ... If he follows you into a restaurant, engage in small talk, but little else. If he comes to your house, sneak out the back door or window. If he comes into your place of business and tries to make a scene, plaster one of those ridiculously fake smiles often worn by flight attendants and say, "Sir, we're going to have to ask you to calm down or we'll be forced to call security." If he calls you later about it, ignore it as if you forgot it had happened.

Psychopaths equate boredom with torture. Your seeming lack of interest will quickly bore him and he'll move on to much more entertaining subjects. But if you ignore him completely, he will still know that his behavior upsets you which is exciting to him.

As a backup plan, collect any damning information you can in case you need to call the police. Don't try to use this to convince others.

I thought this was actually excellent advice! In fact, I wish I could locate this member so that I could get advice from them on my situation. :-(