[Oscar60]

Our 31-year-old son is living at home - he was diagnosed with an anxiety disorder and is high functioning aspergers. In recent years he has become dependent on prescription opiate pain killers for unidentified pain and he has a number of physical health issues. He holds down a job in IT but finds daily living skills difficult. His father cares for him deeply but finds it hard to accept his son can't lead a 'normal' life. Our son is quite hostile to his father because he feels his father doesn't understand and because his father tends to bottle things up and then explode about issues such as disgusting, mouldy dishes building up in our son's bedroom. He is not responding to polite requests to throw out rubbish etc. This morning there was a huge explosion where his father threatened to leave unless our son left. Our son brought up issues from his teenage years and said his father had accused him, at age 13, of trying to destroy our marriage. I feel exhausted by this - is family therapy the answer, although I am not sure either of them would attend?

[gayleggg]

I'm sorry you are put in this position. Family therapy might be worth a try if they are willing. Otherwise you may have to make a decision and that will be hard I know. I hope counseling helps.

[googley]

My recommendation would be some family therapy and individual therapy if you can't get your family to go to family therapy.

[Kbby]

I'm so sorry you are stuck in the middle. I would definitely try to get everyone to family therapy if at all possible. If your husband or son won't go, then go on your own. I think a little bit of help is better than none at all. Big hugs.. I hope you can find a little peace.