[MissTery]

Hello all!
My husband of 1.5 years was dx with bipolar 1 8 years ago. When we met, he recently lost his job.
I've been working 2 jobs to make sure we have all of our finances covered, and recently, I pressured him about trying to find a job, to help out. We went to his PsychMD and the Dr said He is unable to work...NOW. But he's using that as his white flag, anytime we talk about finances, and I can't take it. I cannot keep working 2 jobs from 6 am til 8 pm, while he sits and ruminates about whether or not to feed the cat.

HELP.

[Skeezyks]

Hello MissTery: I'm sorry you are in this most difficult situation. Unfortunately I don't know as there is much I can suggest. If your husband doesn't see a therapist, that may be something to consider if possible.

I don't know how mental health services are provided where you are. Where I live about all pdoc's do is prescribe & monitor psych med's. Anything other than that is left to therapists. You wrote that the PsychMD said your husband cannot work now. I guess the question is how long might this be expected to last & what, if anything, is being done, or can be done, to facilitate the process of making it possible for your husband to return to work.

Having your husband sitting around ruminating about whether or not to feed the cat is, it seems to me, at the very least not helpful & potentially harmful. If nothing else, I would think perhaps some kind of day treatment program would be something to consider... something to get him up & out of the house.

Unfortunately, if nothing is done to intervene in this situation, there may simply come a time when you'll have to decide if there is any way to readjust your finances so that your husband can continue to not work & you will also not have to work 2 jobs to cover your finances. (Perhaps at some point it may make sense to consider filing a claim for Social Security Disability benefits.) Beyond that I'm afraid the situation may simply continue to be what it is. I wish you well...