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Your situation is no kidding so similar to mine. My husband can't function well enough to bring money home. He blames me for him being in this state. I'm raising two kids... on my own. There are many many moments it's utterly unbearable. I've asked him to leave numerous times and he NEVER will. I've threatened divorce and he got nasty. He scared me so I decided to play nice.... We've had bad fights just like you describe. I hear ya. I do. It's so hard! Everything is one sided. It's so lonely. That's why I have to shut off. I do that pretty well. The only time he comes back is when I shut off. |
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Poohbah
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Location: Phoenix
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Setting Boundaries you will stick to is the main solution here. __________________ Bipolar 2 with anxious distress mixed states & rapid cycling under severe stress tegretol 200 mg wellbutrin 75 mg, cut in half or higher dose as needed Regular aerobic exercise SKILLSET/KNOWLEDGE BASE: Family Medical Advocate Masters in Library Science Multiple Subject Teaching Credential-15 yrs in public schools |
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Poohbah
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Please hold this thought in yr mind: normal men wont act like this, wont treat you like this. You can have a happy life. Many people w addictions just don’t get over them, especially if they wont go to AA or whatever is appropriate for getting help. We had to draw the line with my alcoholic father and my mother did remarry. You are so used to the misery that it’s hard to break free. You feel like if YOU do the right thing, everything will be OK. That kind of thinking is a horrible trap.
Keep going to your therapist, do the separation and stick to it. Make a list of what you want in a guy and stick to it. Join some activities to meet men who like the things you do. That works better than random online dating and men treat you better when they are accountable to a group of friends who know what they are doing. __________________ Bipolar 2 with anxious distress mixed states & rapid cycling under severe stress tegretol 200 mg wellbutrin 75 mg, cut in half or higher dose as needed Regular aerobic exercise SKILLSET/KNOWLEDGE BASE: Family Medical Advocate Masters in Library Science Multiple Subject Teaching Credential-15 yrs in public schools |
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Location: New Jersey
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#24
You said you have these problems with your H- do you mean husband?
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Member Since Jan 2019
Location: Cottage Grove
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#25
I'm so sorry you are going through this. I felt like you described my husband. Please let me know if you find any solutions
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