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Old 03-23-2021, 01:26 PM   #1
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Default Can someone have quiet BPD, but it doesnt show up in the relationship until trauma?

It seemed like my ex was seemingly normal at the time, but after 5 years together a traumatic event happened and she began to show many of the signs of quiet BPD.

Before the traumatic event on occasion she would show some of them, but nothing like compared to that after the traumatic event.

I heard somewhere that trauma and traumatic events can be the catalysts or trigger for quiet BPD individuals to show their true sides or the parts of them they tend to internalize since they are quiet BPD individuals.

Is this true?

Can trauma trigger quiet BPD individuals to finally show signs?

TLDR: small signs of quiet bpd I never really noticed due to rose tinted glasses, trauma occurred, then major signs happening.
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Old 03-25-2021, 12:28 AM   #2
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It seemed like my ex was seemingly normal at the time, but after 5 years together a traumatic event happened and she began to show many of the signs of quiet BPD.

Before the traumatic event on occasion she would show some of them, but nothing like compared to that after the traumatic event.

I heard somewhere that trauma and traumatic events can be the catalysts or trigger for quiet BPD individuals to show their true sides or the parts of them they tend to internalize since they are quiet BPD individuals.

Is this true?

Can trauma trigger quiet BPD individuals to finally show signs?

TLDR: small signs of quiet bpd I never really noticed due to rose tinted glasses, trauma occurred, then major signs happening.
this person is your Ex according to your post. that means privacy stuff is involved that says only your ex can discuss her mental issues with you.

my suggestion is talk with your ex, ask her what her problems are and how you can help. then she will tell you herself.....if ..... she wants you to be part of her problems now that she is your ex relationship wise.

as for whats possible for quiet BPD after trauma with your ex only her treatment providers and she can answer that question as it pertains to her and her issues.

what I can tell you is that with some people yes it is possible and for others no its not possible. how mental issues affect a person is individualized.

my suggestion is leave the diagnosing and guess work of your ex up to your ex and her doctors. and maybe contact a treatment provider to help you with the break up and how to handle her issues now that you and she are no longer together.
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